My 17 year-old son has been on house detention for almost 3 months and ...?
Question: My 17 year-old son has been on house detention for almost 3 months. during this time he has continued to not abide by family rules, or the rules of the court. I am tempted to report this to his probation officer. But if I do this, then my son may be put in jail for 3 years. He acts as if he doesn't care about anything. Should I report him, or should I wait until his review hearing. The judge will ask me how my son has been doing. The last hearing I didn't tell the judge the things he was doing that could have landed my son in jail. But the next time, I feel I should tell everything. Would I be a bad dad for this? Even-though my son treats me as though I am not his dad. I am lawfully his step-father of almost 10 years. What should I do?
Answers: That's a tough decision, however, you are NOT doing the kid any favors by covering for him. I suspect that that is the way he has gotten to the point that he is now at.
Do the right thing and tell the truth.....You'll BOTH be better for it.
Are the things he's doing leading to a pattern that he's just going to repeat his mistakes with the law?
if so and you honestly feel that jail will teach him a lesson and you're prepared for some angry feelings towards you that may be the answer.
but also be prepared it may not help him and he'll continue on this course regardless of what you do.
I think by letting your son get by with breaking the rules, he will continue to do so, and once his house detention is over, go right back to his old ways and possibly get into even more serious trouble down the road that could lead to even longer jail terms, or worse. He needs to know that his actions will have consequences.
Also by lying in a court of law, you are breaking the law yourself.
your son believes you do not have the will power or straight to hold him accountable for his own conduct. it will require tough love on your part. call the cops have him picked up for violating the terms of his probation. its either do it well he is still a minor or watch him get into real problems as an adult and go away for possibility a lot longer. if you do this it will also show your other children that you have boundaries that you will stand by
First of all when will your son turn 18. because by then its not going to matter how much love and pampering you give him. If he screws up hes an adult now. If you want peace of mind then follow this rule. Sometimes you have to let a person fall to get back up. Maybe they fall a couple of times and get tired of falling or maybe they fall once, pick themselves up, and lead the lif ethe society accepts. But if evertime a person falls and we continue to pick them up and do all the growing and walking for them, then they will never know that they have there own 2 feet to stand on.I learned that at a young age, and right now I consider myself a success.
Answers: That's a tough decision, however, you are NOT doing the kid any favors by covering for him. I suspect that that is the way he has gotten to the point that he is now at.
Do the right thing and tell the truth.....You'll BOTH be better for it.
Are the things he's doing leading to a pattern that he's just going to repeat his mistakes with the law?
if so and you honestly feel that jail will teach him a lesson and you're prepared for some angry feelings towards you that may be the answer.
but also be prepared it may not help him and he'll continue on this course regardless of what you do.
I think by letting your son get by with breaking the rules, he will continue to do so, and once his house detention is over, go right back to his old ways and possibly get into even more serious trouble down the road that could lead to even longer jail terms, or worse. He needs to know that his actions will have consequences.
Also by lying in a court of law, you are breaking the law yourself.
your son believes you do not have the will power or straight to hold him accountable for his own conduct. it will require tough love on your part. call the cops have him picked up for violating the terms of his probation. its either do it well he is still a minor or watch him get into real problems as an adult and go away for possibility a lot longer. if you do this it will also show your other children that you have boundaries that you will stand by
First of all when will your son turn 18. because by then its not going to matter how much love and pampering you give him. If he screws up hes an adult now. If you want peace of mind then follow this rule. Sometimes you have to let a person fall to get back up. Maybe they fall a couple of times and get tired of falling or maybe they fall once, pick themselves up, and lead the lif ethe society accepts. But if evertime a person falls and we continue to pick them up and do all the growing and walking for them, then they will never know that they have there own 2 feet to stand on.I learned that at a young age, and right now I consider myself a success.
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