I am going under..... need incouragement!!!?
Question: OK, I am a 23 year old wife of five years (couldn't be happier with my spouse) and mother of new infant and preschooler. I work nights to stay home with my kids and he works 12 hour days. I see him for maybe two hours a day. One in the morning and one in the evening before I go to work. I commute my preschooler which keeps me busy, I do all the cooking, cleaning, homework, finances, shopping all by myself (he has no time to help) I am very irritated with my mother and brother right now, our baby is sick and no doctor can find out why, our kitchen sink started leaking today and I all I want to do is cry, but I cant because I dont want my kids to see...I am feeling very sorry for myself, words of wisdom?
Answers: You say you couldn't be happier with your spouse. Sounds like your a pretty good mom too. You're a very lucky women and you have a very lucky family, to have you in it.
Being a wife and mother of an infant and a new baby (along with working) is a big-big job. You deserve to feel sorry for yourself at times. That's okay. Something tells me - you do fine most days.
Time goes by so fast (faster then you can imagine, especially on a bad day). This schedule you carry with yourself will not be your schedule in a year or 5 years or 10 years. It will be a fleeting moment. And before you know it - you'll look back at this time in your life and say - wow - how did I do it. It gets better - watch and see.
Wilma, don't cry over the kitchen sink. We can fix that. I would suggest using Teflon tape for the leaking joint, unless the sink itself is cracked. So, I wouldn't cry over the kitchen sink leaking. But you can cry over spilled milk.
man, you are indeed carrying a load. I've somewhat been there. The best advice I can give you is take it item by item and day by day. Leaky sink... okay, that can be fixed. It's just a normal thing that happens. Sick baby, all I could say there is if your doctor can't find what is wrong, ask him to send you to a specialists or change doctors. Do something there. You and your husband's schedule..... Is there any way you can do something? I mean can you move into a smaller place or sell a new car for an older one... something to take the economic pressure off of you? If you don't have time for some fun stuff, life gets pretty tiresome. Make sure you guys make time to be together. Long days and long nights will exhaust you, even at your age, but if there is light at the end of the tunnel you can keep fighting to reach your goal. It's easy for me to say don't let things overwhelm you, just priorities everything, not forgetting your needs as a mate, a mother, and wife. Hang in there, a family is worth it. Don't sweat the small stuff.
It's okay when you think of how bad it's going just remember that no matter what you have two children that love you no matter. And I hope this helps you out; in the past week my significante other and I had a hugh fight he got his wallet stolen with all our money for our rent, our grocery's, our daughter diapers, etc..... the same night someone hit our car. The next day the car died with just me and my daughter in the car. Then on wednesday I found out from my son's daycare that one of his teachers one day couldn't handle him so she taped him to a chair. Now DHS is involved. My brother also says that I am a bad mom to my son. I know you are frustrated but things could be worse. Just keep your head up high and remember that you have the most important thing in the world. Your family.
It's okay to cry sometimes. If you don't want to cry in front of your kids, go to the bathroom, then get yourself together and face your problems. You sound like a very smart girl. It sounds like you need a good time out cry.
I'm sure you've been asked but have you mentioned to your Dr. that you've been feeling so overwhelmed and down in the dumps?You could be suffering from postpardom depression.It's quite common and your Dr. could perscribe something to help you thru it. PPD was my first thought but when I read about the hectic schedule you adhere to, you would have to be SuperWoman to keep that schedule day after day. Women are so good at taking care of everybody else but tend to neglect their own wellbeing. Honey, it sure sounds like you have a lot on your plate and I can certainly sympathize with you. I was a wife & Mother at a young age and I worked a fulltime job outside of the home.It does get better. In the meantime, it is so very important to schedule some me time . I'm talking about making time for the simple things in life that bring you joy. I cannot stress enough the importance of having something in your life that makes you feel like you. Yes, you are a wife and you are a Mother of two, but never forget that you also have your own identity. I let that happen to me and it's a long, hard climb back up. I didnt take time for myself. I completely gave up everything I had enjoyed before I was a wife and Mother. I had been a competitive runner for years but I gave it up after my first child. It was gradual but by the time I was in my late 20's, I had left my own identity far behind and it was an incredibly empty feeling. So remember, take care of you too. If you go under, how will you take care of your children? Being healthy and happy can only enhance your qualities as a Mother...Hang in there, Hon. Nothing worthwhile comes easy. You will someday reap the benifits of your steadfast love and dedication to your family.
Answers: You say you couldn't be happier with your spouse. Sounds like your a pretty good mom too. You're a very lucky women and you have a very lucky family, to have you in it.
Being a wife and mother of an infant and a new baby (along with working) is a big-big job. You deserve to feel sorry for yourself at times. That's okay. Something tells me - you do fine most days.
Time goes by so fast (faster then you can imagine, especially on a bad day). This schedule you carry with yourself will not be your schedule in a year or 5 years or 10 years. It will be a fleeting moment. And before you know it - you'll look back at this time in your life and say - wow - how did I do it. It gets better - watch and see.
Wilma, don't cry over the kitchen sink. We can fix that. I would suggest using Teflon tape for the leaking joint, unless the sink itself is cracked. So, I wouldn't cry over the kitchen sink leaking. But you can cry over spilled milk.
man, you are indeed carrying a load. I've somewhat been there. The best advice I can give you is take it item by item and day by day. Leaky sink... okay, that can be fixed. It's just a normal thing that happens. Sick baby, all I could say there is if your doctor can't find what is wrong, ask him to send you to a specialists or change doctors. Do something there. You and your husband's schedule..... Is there any way you can do something? I mean can you move into a smaller place or sell a new car for an older one... something to take the economic pressure off of you? If you don't have time for some fun stuff, life gets pretty tiresome. Make sure you guys make time to be together. Long days and long nights will exhaust you, even at your age, but if there is light at the end of the tunnel you can keep fighting to reach your goal. It's easy for me to say don't let things overwhelm you, just priorities everything, not forgetting your needs as a mate, a mother, and wife. Hang in there, a family is worth it. Don't sweat the small stuff.
It's okay when you think of how bad it's going just remember that no matter what you have two children that love you no matter. And I hope this helps you out; in the past week my significante other and I had a hugh fight he got his wallet stolen with all our money for our rent, our grocery's, our daughter diapers, etc..... the same night someone hit our car. The next day the car died with just me and my daughter in the car. Then on wednesday I found out from my son's daycare that one of his teachers one day couldn't handle him so she taped him to a chair. Now DHS is involved. My brother also says that I am a bad mom to my son. I know you are frustrated but things could be worse. Just keep your head up high and remember that you have the most important thing in the world. Your family.
It's okay to cry sometimes. If you don't want to cry in front of your kids, go to the bathroom, then get yourself together and face your problems. You sound like a very smart girl. It sounds like you need a good time out cry.
I'm sure you've been asked but have you mentioned to your Dr. that you've been feeling so overwhelmed and down in the dumps?You could be suffering from postpardom depression.It's quite common and your Dr. could perscribe something to help you thru it. PPD was my first thought but when I read about the hectic schedule you adhere to, you would have to be SuperWoman to keep that schedule day after day. Women are so good at taking care of everybody else but tend to neglect their own wellbeing. Honey, it sure sounds like you have a lot on your plate and I can certainly sympathize with you. I was a wife & Mother at a young age and I worked a fulltime job outside of the home.It does get better. In the meantime, it is so very important to schedule some me time . I'm talking about making time for the simple things in life that bring you joy. I cannot stress enough the importance of having something in your life that makes you feel like you. Yes, you are a wife and you are a Mother of two, but never forget that you also have your own identity. I let that happen to me and it's a long, hard climb back up. I didnt take time for myself. I completely gave up everything I had enjoyed before I was a wife and Mother. I had been a competitive runner for years but I gave it up after my first child. It was gradual but by the time I was in my late 20's, I had left my own identity far behind and it was an incredibly empty feeling. So remember, take care of you too. If you go under, how will you take care of your children? Being healthy and happy can only enhance your qualities as a Mother...Hang in there, Hon. Nothing worthwhile comes easy. You will someday reap the benifits of your steadfast love and dedication to your family.
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