Why do people with kids always blame there kids for the messy house...?
Question: i hear it all the time stuff like i just cant keep up or these kids, you clean up and an hour later its a mess again how on earth is it that your kids would be running the house like that? when i was a kid we played in the back yard or out rooms and there was also a family room we could play in , the rest of the house was off limits to toys and messes and we had to clean everything up at the end of the day. so why do people blame there kids for there messy house?
Answers: Because our kids actually do destroy our houses. I don't have any roped off areas like the house I grew up in. We all use our whole home. I try to keep the food in the kitchen/dining area. Sometimes the littlest one wanders away and makes a mess. Ever seen the condition of a house after a 2-yr. old gets ahold of a bag of popcorn? Not a pretty sight! I am a work-at-home mom with 3 children. I can't be everywhere all 3 of them are at all times. Not possible.
My kids do not RUN my house but they do LIVE IN my house. I don't make them go outside and play if they don't want to. I don't make them stay in their rooms if they don't want to. I had to do that as a child and I grew up feeling distant from my parents. I feel blessed that my children want to be around me.
Here are some more REAL reasons why our houses are a mess:
The house I live in is about 3x the size of the house I grew up in. More to clean.
My kids have WAY more toys than I ever did. More to play with, more to pick up.
We have WAY more clothes than my family did growing up. It's easier to let the laundry pile up when you have so many other things to wear.
Children are offered more extra-curricular activites than when we were growing up - soccer, ballet, baseball, karate, piano lessons, etc. Guess who gets to drive them there? Mom is away from the house more.
Basically, we are blessed. When I was single my house was meticulously clean and I was hopelessly lonely. Would I trade my laughter-filled, happy MESSY home for that meticulously clean house? NOT IN A MILLION YEARS!
obviously you dont have kids. I have 3 kids and trust me I clean constantly. I vacume about 4 times a day. Its the parent that only let there kids play in there rooms that cabn keep a perfect house 24/7. Kids make messses its part of being a kid.
fuuuuuuuck!! jesus do you know how hard it is to clean after kids?? I mean I only babysit and by the end of the night I am ready to shoot myself!!
they have no routine, and the kids may be always in the house, bored. Our home is always spotless, that is the way it is, the kids come first, they are happy and we work as a team to keep things totally clean at all times, but this home is very comfortable to come into and relax.
KIDS are sooooooo messy! That's exactly why I'm not having any!
I think it's quite difficult keeping up with kids, and staying on top of household chores in general. But it can be done if your kids are on a schedule or routine. I have quite a few relatives/friends who keep very tidy homes as they had set up a routine for their kids from the time they were babies (though, at times, it can feel a little too regimented!). You could simply tidy up when they're put down for naps, or just after they go to bed, but I'm sure the last thing a parent wants to do is vaccuum, dust, do dishes, laundry after a long day of work when they'd much rather prop their feet up and take a breather.
thats b.s. i got kids and are constantly picking up after them. its all about laziness> lazy people blame their kids. a non lazy person would have no problem picking up the same thing several times a day in order to keep their house clean rather than be lazy and not care if you live in filth or not
EXCELLENT QUESTION!!!! I have a friend like that. She only has 1 kid and cant keep the house clean. It's not that hard. Clean up after your kid when they are too young to do it themselves. Once they can walk, they can clean. Teach them to clean up after themselves. I work in daycare. It's difficult cleaning up after 15 toddlers, but if they help it's way easier. And they know that we cannot go to the next activity until we clean up the first one. Put that rule in your home and ENFORCE IT and you'll have no problems. The adults have to set the standards for the house, not the kids.
WOW! I use to always ask myself the same question....especially when I would visit people that have kids. My apartment was ALWAYS CLEANED...until I had a kid myself. Obviously, you dont have a child and need to be a little more understanding. Being a mother is a full time job from the time you wake up until you go to bed. This is the real world most mothers have a job on top of that too, not to mention single mothers trying to make it...god bless them. We're in the year 2006 get a reality check.
I guess it just happens that way in the homes that YOU visit. Not all of us with kids blame it on the kids. My reason for the house being messy? I hate housework and can think of at least 10,000 things I'd rather do. Generalizations really don't make you look all that intelligent. Since you can't possibly know everyone on this planet who has kids you don't really know WHAT they all say about the house being a mess.
Kids are kids and they are meant to make a mess. Should we just have our kids sit on the couch all day and watch T.V. I will not confine my children to their bedroom. Then I will hardly see them. I like to see my children playing and laughing and having fun. That is what it is all about as a child, Fun. When I feel that they are making to big of a mess, I have them start picking up.
It is not about a parent being lazy, it is about there are a million other things we have to do to keep the house clean and if I was to just pick up after my kids all day, my house would be dirty. So I let them make a mess in the living room, but if I see they are not playing with those toys anymore they have to clean them up and at the end of everyday, they have to clean up their mess and their bedroom. And then yes, in the morning it is a mess again. But my children are smiling and happy.
Answers: Because our kids actually do destroy our houses. I don't have any roped off areas like the house I grew up in. We all use our whole home. I try to keep the food in the kitchen/dining area. Sometimes the littlest one wanders away and makes a mess. Ever seen the condition of a house after a 2-yr. old gets ahold of a bag of popcorn? Not a pretty sight! I am a work-at-home mom with 3 children. I can't be everywhere all 3 of them are at all times. Not possible.
My kids do not RUN my house but they do LIVE IN my house. I don't make them go outside and play if they don't want to. I don't make them stay in their rooms if they don't want to. I had to do that as a child and I grew up feeling distant from my parents. I feel blessed that my children want to be around me.
Here are some more REAL reasons why our houses are a mess:
The house I live in is about 3x the size of the house I grew up in. More to clean.
My kids have WAY more toys than I ever did. More to play with, more to pick up.
We have WAY more clothes than my family did growing up. It's easier to let the laundry pile up when you have so many other things to wear.
Children are offered more extra-curricular activites than when we were growing up - soccer, ballet, baseball, karate, piano lessons, etc. Guess who gets to drive them there? Mom is away from the house more.
Basically, we are blessed. When I was single my house was meticulously clean and I was hopelessly lonely. Would I trade my laughter-filled, happy MESSY home for that meticulously clean house? NOT IN A MILLION YEARS!
obviously you dont have kids. I have 3 kids and trust me I clean constantly. I vacume about 4 times a day. Its the parent that only let there kids play in there rooms that cabn keep a perfect house 24/7. Kids make messses its part of being a kid.
fuuuuuuuck!! jesus do you know how hard it is to clean after kids?? I mean I only babysit and by the end of the night I am ready to shoot myself!!
they have no routine, and the kids may be always in the house, bored. Our home is always spotless, that is the way it is, the kids come first, they are happy and we work as a team to keep things totally clean at all times, but this home is very comfortable to come into and relax.
KIDS are sooooooo messy! That's exactly why I'm not having any!
I think it's quite difficult keeping up with kids, and staying on top of household chores in general. But it can be done if your kids are on a schedule or routine. I have quite a few relatives/friends who keep very tidy homes as they had set up a routine for their kids from the time they were babies (though, at times, it can feel a little too regimented!). You could simply tidy up when they're put down for naps, or just after they go to bed, but I'm sure the last thing a parent wants to do is vaccuum, dust, do dishes, laundry after a long day of work when they'd much rather prop their feet up and take a breather.
thats b.s. i got kids and are constantly picking up after them. its all about laziness> lazy people blame their kids. a non lazy person would have no problem picking up the same thing several times a day in order to keep their house clean rather than be lazy and not care if you live in filth or not
EXCELLENT QUESTION!!!! I have a friend like that. She only has 1 kid and cant keep the house clean. It's not that hard. Clean up after your kid when they are too young to do it themselves. Once they can walk, they can clean. Teach them to clean up after themselves. I work in daycare. It's difficult cleaning up after 15 toddlers, but if they help it's way easier. And they know that we cannot go to the next activity until we clean up the first one. Put that rule in your home and ENFORCE IT and you'll have no problems. The adults have to set the standards for the house, not the kids.
WOW! I use to always ask myself the same question....especially when I would visit people that have kids. My apartment was ALWAYS CLEANED...until I had a kid myself. Obviously, you dont have a child and need to be a little more understanding. Being a mother is a full time job from the time you wake up until you go to bed. This is the real world most mothers have a job on top of that too, not to mention single mothers trying to make it...god bless them. We're in the year 2006 get a reality check.
I guess it just happens that way in the homes that YOU visit. Not all of us with kids blame it on the kids. My reason for the house being messy? I hate housework and can think of at least 10,000 things I'd rather do. Generalizations really don't make you look all that intelligent. Since you can't possibly know everyone on this planet who has kids you don't really know WHAT they all say about the house being a mess.
Kids are kids and they are meant to make a mess. Should we just have our kids sit on the couch all day and watch T.V. I will not confine my children to their bedroom. Then I will hardly see them. I like to see my children playing and laughing and having fun. That is what it is all about as a child, Fun. When I feel that they are making to big of a mess, I have them start picking up.
It is not about a parent being lazy, it is about there are a million other things we have to do to keep the house clean and if I was to just pick up after my kids all day, my house would be dirty. So I let them make a mess in the living room, but if I see they are not playing with those toys anymore they have to clean them up and at the end of everyday, they have to clean up their mess and their bedroom. And then yes, in the morning it is a mess again. But my children are smiling and happy.
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