13 and found out was adopted..?
Question: when i was 13 years old,i found out i was adopted.
i didn't relize it before,my real mom was 30 years old when i found it out.she told me in person b/c she was supossedly at the time my cousin but really was my mom.i am still related to the people that adopted me only its kinda vise versa. is it crazy at 13 to finally find out?
Answers: You're so lucky..........I mean it.
did they rape you also?
dont worry about it
just think this way your special cause they chose you
wow.i feel sorry for you.i dont know why she gave you up.maybe you where to pretty.
no itss not
at least u knew the truth
maybe she thought it was right to tell you at that age.when u understood...
that sucks but u wouldnt of understood at a younger age.
very that suks, depending on if ur happy or not, but it would suk for me
just be glad your real mom gave you up instead of aborting you. she did the right thing at the time and you have two parents who really do love you.
It sounds like your legal guardians are your aunt and uncle? I'm just curious, what are you asking?
Just be thankful that you have a loving family. It sounds weird that your cousin is really your mom but at least she kept you close in the family, that show's she really cares about you. Obviously she had some problems at the time but thankfully, you know who your biological mother is......... some kids never know.
Smile and be happy!
No dear, not crazy. My best friend was adopted and he didn't know until he was 19 or 20, he was trying to find out who his birth parents were and his adoptive parents wouldn't tell them. He went to the court and they wouldn't disclose the info until he was 21 (isn't that retarded?) but he finally found out anyway. He KNEW his birth mother, she waitressed at a restaurant that he went to a lot. He has a relationship with her and his biological dad and his family, and still loves his adoptive parents, calls them Mom and Dad and all are happy now that the big secret is out. It was traumatic for my friend how he found out, he went to a file cabinet to get something else and the folder just jumped out at him.... I hope it wasn't so bad for you finding out! I've often wondered how kids felt when another family member adopts, but I'm sure they thought it was best for you and that is a big and very loving decision. Try to understand and not be hard on them. Sounds like you a have a lot of family members who love you! How fortunate you are. Hang in there, sweetie!
hi i'm adopted to. your special in gods eyes and you have a purpose in your life and make the best of it hun. so are my brothers. they are korean. i'm cherokee and german.
so put your head up and be proud. ok.
tasha
Hey be glad now that you got two moms instead of one, think about the children who have none, look at the positive side of things than bragging on something that is not worth while, grow up !
No, but they should have practiced telling you before really telling you be using a journal or something. What words to use etc.
They should have told you what adoption was at 3 yrs of age then told you around 4 or 5 when you were able to comprehend that sort of information.
They might have not done the right thing but then they may have not been able to tell you because of the lack of know how.
I have a brother that was adopted and he was told at an early age, he also is isolated from the family now out of his choice.
In conclusion I guess there's no right or wrong way to tell a child this sort of information. It will turnout to be a shock no matter.
hello,
You are lucky to know who your mom is and that you have contact. My husband doesn't know either paren and he's lnown since he was 8 yrs old. His adopted father knows who they are but won't tell. He stresses that he is my husband's father and no one else. His mom doesn't remember since she is an acoholic. For me, it's hard to understand why his dad is like this. We have two kids and don't know what kind of medical conditions his parents may be carring or inherited to pass on. I envy you. Make the most of it. I am sure she loves you as much as your adoptive parents. Hey, you just have more parents then some of us that's all so you can get more love all around.
Best of luck
God bless
no it's not weird. im sure that if you family though it was in your best intrestest you would never know. they are plenty of people that don't find out till their parents are on their death beds or when they die. your lucky to people that love you and want you in their lives. just count your blessing you was thown in a trash can.
it is difficult. but be happy that you didn't find out at age 50 or later.when you have lived your entire life almost.now you can establish a relationship with your birth parents if YOU want to. You are here because GOD,your birth mother, and adopted parents wanted you to be here.enjoy life ok.youre 13 it will be ok
well you have to understand that they do love you because you were adopted and the cousin thing, well it's hard to get a young child to understand that sometimes to show our love we have to let go and hope that they ( the children) will have a better life that what the person or persons that adopted you out could pervide at the time.
Don't worry about it, if they take good care of you thats fine^^. Its great that you have a family^^.
Maybe it's just me, but a real mom is the one who raised you. The one who gave birth to you is a biological (or bio) mom. I'm glad that you know and are friendly with your bio-mom. She probably had someone else in the family adopt you because she was a young teen and couldn't handle it. It's nice that you are related to your adoptive parents. Don't worry about it. Just enjoy your life and be happy you are so loved.
what ceer4ever said
Well, they should have told you sooner. I was adopted and have known ever since I was old enough to understand.
I have never had any issues and you should not either as long as you feel like you have a good loving life. At least you know your birth mother. Now it is like you have 2 moms.
i didn't relize it before,my real mom was 30 years old when i found it out.she told me in person b/c she was supossedly at the time my cousin but really was my mom.i am still related to the people that adopted me only its kinda vise versa. is it crazy at 13 to finally find out?
Answers: You're so lucky..........I mean it.
did they rape you also?
dont worry about it
just think this way your special cause they chose you
wow.i feel sorry for you.i dont know why she gave you up.maybe you where to pretty.
no itss not
at least u knew the truth
maybe she thought it was right to tell you at that age.when u understood...
that sucks but u wouldnt of understood at a younger age.
very that suks, depending on if ur happy or not, but it would suk for me
just be glad your real mom gave you up instead of aborting you. she did the right thing at the time and you have two parents who really do love you.
It sounds like your legal guardians are your aunt and uncle? I'm just curious, what are you asking?
Just be thankful that you have a loving family. It sounds weird that your cousin is really your mom but at least she kept you close in the family, that show's she really cares about you. Obviously she had some problems at the time but thankfully, you know who your biological mother is......... some kids never know.
Smile and be happy!
No dear, not crazy. My best friend was adopted and he didn't know until he was 19 or 20, he was trying to find out who his birth parents were and his adoptive parents wouldn't tell them. He went to the court and they wouldn't disclose the info until he was 21 (isn't that retarded?) but he finally found out anyway. He KNEW his birth mother, she waitressed at a restaurant that he went to a lot. He has a relationship with her and his biological dad and his family, and still loves his adoptive parents, calls them Mom and Dad and all are happy now that the big secret is out. It was traumatic for my friend how he found out, he went to a file cabinet to get something else and the folder just jumped out at him.... I hope it wasn't so bad for you finding out! I've often wondered how kids felt when another family member adopts, but I'm sure they thought it was best for you and that is a big and very loving decision. Try to understand and not be hard on them. Sounds like you a have a lot of family members who love you! How fortunate you are. Hang in there, sweetie!
hi i'm adopted to. your special in gods eyes and you have a purpose in your life and make the best of it hun. so are my brothers. they are korean. i'm cherokee and german.
so put your head up and be proud. ok.
tasha
Hey be glad now that you got two moms instead of one, think about the children who have none, look at the positive side of things than bragging on something that is not worth while, grow up !
No, but they should have practiced telling you before really telling you be using a journal or something. What words to use etc.
They should have told you what adoption was at 3 yrs of age then told you around 4 or 5 when you were able to comprehend that sort of information.
They might have not done the right thing but then they may have not been able to tell you because of the lack of know how.
I have a brother that was adopted and he was told at an early age, he also is isolated from the family now out of his choice.
In conclusion I guess there's no right or wrong way to tell a child this sort of information. It will turnout to be a shock no matter.
hello,
You are lucky to know who your mom is and that you have contact. My husband doesn't know either paren and he's lnown since he was 8 yrs old. His adopted father knows who they are but won't tell. He stresses that he is my husband's father and no one else. His mom doesn't remember since she is an acoholic. For me, it's hard to understand why his dad is like this. We have two kids and don't know what kind of medical conditions his parents may be carring or inherited to pass on. I envy you. Make the most of it. I am sure she loves you as much as your adoptive parents. Hey, you just have more parents then some of us that's all so you can get more love all around.
Best of luck
God bless
no it's not weird. im sure that if you family though it was in your best intrestest you would never know. they are plenty of people that don't find out till their parents are on their death beds or when they die. your lucky to people that love you and want you in their lives. just count your blessing you was thown in a trash can.
it is difficult. but be happy that you didn't find out at age 50 or later.when you have lived your entire life almost.now you can establish a relationship with your birth parents if YOU want to. You are here because GOD,your birth mother, and adopted parents wanted you to be here.enjoy life ok.youre 13 it will be ok
well you have to understand that they do love you because you were adopted and the cousin thing, well it's hard to get a young child to understand that sometimes to show our love we have to let go and hope that they ( the children) will have a better life that what the person or persons that adopted you out could pervide at the time.
Don't worry about it, if they take good care of you thats fine^^. Its great that you have a family^^.
Maybe it's just me, but a real mom is the one who raised you. The one who gave birth to you is a biological (or bio) mom. I'm glad that you know and are friendly with your bio-mom. She probably had someone else in the family adopt you because she was a young teen and couldn't handle it. It's nice that you are related to your adoptive parents. Don't worry about it. Just enjoy your life and be happy you are so loved.
what ceer4ever said
Well, they should have told you sooner. I was adopted and have known ever since I was old enough to understand.
I have never had any issues and you should not either as long as you feel like you have a good loving life. At least you know your birth mother. Now it is like you have 2 moms.
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