Would you let your little kids travel out of state with their grandparents?
Question: My kids are 5 and 3 and my Dad has asked me twice about taking them with he and my mother on their trip to Missouri to see his brother (their great-uncle, whom the kids have never met). It is approx. 350 miles away and they are wanting to take them for 4 days. I have never been away from my children even 1 day and I just can't see letting them go. I love my Mom and Pop and trust them completely but thats a long way for a 5 & 3 year old to travel, plus without their Mommy. I would go with them but my husband doesn't really want to because they will be staying at a cabin (a very old resort cabin with no TV) kind of outside a small community where there would be nothing to do but sit. (Hubby is the kind that has to be entertained everywhere he goes.) I am at a loss for what to do. My parents are taking this trip because of my Dad's 70th Birthday. (It's where Dad wants to go.)
Answers: You could compromise. You go with them and leave your husband at home. Then your babies aren't leaving you, but you won't have to hear your husband whine about being bored. Or you could just grit you teeth and let your parents take them...if they're in good health, that is. At that point, it's not really a trust issue, but a safety issue.
Also, sounds like you're a little scared that the kids will have fun without you. They probably will, but you're still Mommy! They won't stop loving you or forget you in just a few days. More than likely, they'd be fine. It's normal to not want to let go, though. My husband wouldn't let our daughter have a sleepover at Grandma's house til she was 4, and his mom only lives 35 miles away from us! Talk about being afraid to let go! :)
OMG they raised you right? enjoy a few nights off if you dont let them your parents will think you dont trust them
Ask your kids explain to them that they will be away from you for 4 days and tell them that they are going to see there great uncle. I think your kids are old enough to understand. It would be a good opportunity for you to get away and relax too.
If you think your parents are in good health at thier age then go ahead. I would. Just think, you and your husband have a few days to yourselves. Couple time is always fun.
It sounds like you do have a good relationship with your parents. I know that some of my favorite memories are when I took trips with my grandparents. It was great for everybody involved- my parents received an opportunity to connect, the kids and grandparents got to spend time with each other. It sounds like your children will get a great opportunity to be outdoors and learn how to entertain themselves without the TV. I say send them and enjoy your weekend!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY GRANDPA!!!
I wouldn't let them go. If you can't convince your husband to go along and make it more of a family trip, then I would just tell your parents that the kids would love to go, but you're afraid it's too far away and for too many days for them to be without you. Instead, see if you can have a party for your Dad before they leave and let the kids spend plenty of time with them.
The only other thing you could consider is to go with them and leave hubby home with the TV. It sounds like a lot of fun for kids, so you have to weigh the pros and cons and do what's best for everyone.
I let my daughter go with her grandparents, but none of them drink. That would be the thing that would make me say no in your situation. That is no example to set for children.
Why can't you go with them and leave your husband at home?
You and the kids take the trip with your parents. Get away for awhile and enjoy seeing the uncle. Your husband can fend for himself for 4 days.
If u cant let go of them for 4 days how will u go when they go to school 5 days a week. I would let them go its not a long trip and your grandma will be there for the kids when the boys r drinking.
The most important tool you have as a mother is your inner voice. There is a reason you are asking this question - it's clear you aren't comfortable. When in doubt - DON'T.
My advice, when it comes to your kids do what makes you comfortable and never compromise because you feel pressure. You are responsible for keeping them safe and if you aren't sure about this, then make up a reasonable excuse (no reason to be hurtful) and do something special as a family to celebrate your father's 70th.
Oh - and that doesn't even take into consideration the drinking issue or the driving 350 miles at 70 (sorry). Those two things alone would kill it for me.
i understand your situation. you have the right to feel the way you do. if it wasn't for the drinking then i would say yes but children do not need or deserve to be subjected to alcohol. if drinking is going to be a factor on the trip then i say no. drinking can cause so many bad things to happen and i just wouldn't want to take the chance. so due to the drinking i say no.
My daughter always trust me with my 5 yr. old grand daughter since she was a yr. old and she says it is because I did it right with her. Trust your parents and enjoy the wknd.
actually a little vacation could be good for all of you.eventually theyre gonna need to be away from their mom and this can be sort of a practice run.as for the parents-trust them.its obvious they raised you right and they'll do the same with their grandkids.they just want to be a part of they're lives and who knows how many opportunities they'll get.this could be a good time for the kids to get to know their grandparents even better!
It sounds like you're a little hesitant and that's okay. If you don't feel your parents could handle the children or your children could handle being away, then now is not the right time. Maybe in another year. If it was just the drinking, then have your parents promise they won't do any of that when they have the kids. If you can't trust your parents to keep a promise and respecting your wishes on what your children should be exposed to, then don't let your parents take them!
Answers: You could compromise. You go with them and leave your husband at home. Then your babies aren't leaving you, but you won't have to hear your husband whine about being bored. Or you could just grit you teeth and let your parents take them...if they're in good health, that is. At that point, it's not really a trust issue, but a safety issue.
Also, sounds like you're a little scared that the kids will have fun without you. They probably will, but you're still Mommy! They won't stop loving you or forget you in just a few days. More than likely, they'd be fine. It's normal to not want to let go, though. My husband wouldn't let our daughter have a sleepover at Grandma's house til she was 4, and his mom only lives 35 miles away from us! Talk about being afraid to let go! :)
OMG they raised you right? enjoy a few nights off if you dont let them your parents will think you dont trust them
Ask your kids explain to them that they will be away from you for 4 days and tell them that they are going to see there great uncle. I think your kids are old enough to understand. It would be a good opportunity for you to get away and relax too.
If you think your parents are in good health at thier age then go ahead. I would. Just think, you and your husband have a few days to yourselves. Couple time is always fun.
It sounds like you do have a good relationship with your parents. I know that some of my favorite memories are when I took trips with my grandparents. It was great for everybody involved- my parents received an opportunity to connect, the kids and grandparents got to spend time with each other. It sounds like your children will get a great opportunity to be outdoors and learn how to entertain themselves without the TV. I say send them and enjoy your weekend!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY GRANDPA!!!
I wouldn't let them go. If you can't convince your husband to go along and make it more of a family trip, then I would just tell your parents that the kids would love to go, but you're afraid it's too far away and for too many days for them to be without you. Instead, see if you can have a party for your Dad before they leave and let the kids spend plenty of time with them.
The only other thing you could consider is to go with them and leave hubby home with the TV. It sounds like a lot of fun for kids, so you have to weigh the pros and cons and do what's best for everyone.
I let my daughter go with her grandparents, but none of them drink. That would be the thing that would make me say no in your situation. That is no example to set for children.
Why can't you go with them and leave your husband at home?
You and the kids take the trip with your parents. Get away for awhile and enjoy seeing the uncle. Your husband can fend for himself for 4 days.
If u cant let go of them for 4 days how will u go when they go to school 5 days a week. I would let them go its not a long trip and your grandma will be there for the kids when the boys r drinking.
The most important tool you have as a mother is your inner voice. There is a reason you are asking this question - it's clear you aren't comfortable. When in doubt - DON'T.
My advice, when it comes to your kids do what makes you comfortable and never compromise because you feel pressure. You are responsible for keeping them safe and if you aren't sure about this, then make up a reasonable excuse (no reason to be hurtful) and do something special as a family to celebrate your father's 70th.
Oh - and that doesn't even take into consideration the drinking issue or the driving 350 miles at 70 (sorry). Those two things alone would kill it for me.
i understand your situation. you have the right to feel the way you do. if it wasn't for the drinking then i would say yes but children do not need or deserve to be subjected to alcohol. if drinking is going to be a factor on the trip then i say no. drinking can cause so many bad things to happen and i just wouldn't want to take the chance. so due to the drinking i say no.
My daughter always trust me with my 5 yr. old grand daughter since she was a yr. old and she says it is because I did it right with her. Trust your parents and enjoy the wknd.
actually a little vacation could be good for all of you.eventually theyre gonna need to be away from their mom and this can be sort of a practice run.as for the parents-trust them.its obvious they raised you right and they'll do the same with their grandkids.they just want to be a part of they're lives and who knows how many opportunities they'll get.this could be a good time for the kids to get to know their grandparents even better!
It sounds like you're a little hesitant and that's okay. If you don't feel your parents could handle the children or your children could handle being away, then now is not the right time. Maybe in another year. If it was just the drinking, then have your parents promise they won't do any of that when they have the kids. If you can't trust your parents to keep a promise and respecting your wishes on what your children should be exposed to, then don't let your parents take them!
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