I was abused when i was younger and now i see it happening to someone else.. what do i do?
Question: i have been living with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and his little 7 year old cousin lives with them because her mom is in and out of jail because of drugs and her dad died last year after drowning. My boyfriends younger brother who is 15 hits her and picks on her all the time over stupid stuff. Then he also has a 5 year old brother who can do no wrong. If his brother does something he gets a dont do that again , but if his little cousin does it she gets her *** slapped. I dont think its right but everytime i say something i get it thrown in my face that they gave me a place to stay when i had no where to go and i need to shut my mouth. I went through the getting singled out thing and getting hit when i was younger and i know what she was going through. i was beat and got adopted by people who didnt care about me adn i dont want her to grow up feeling like everything that she does is wrong. What can i do or say so that i dont seem like im telling them how to parent?
Answers: First of all, be nice to the girl - let her know that you love her. Teach her to avoid people who hurt her.
Then, you must know that there are laws against ill-usage of children - find a center or something where there are people who defend kids' rights.
read Dave Pelzer's books A Child Called It and The Lost Boy - that will show you what happens sometimes - so do something.
It sounds like your boyfriends brother is blaming the little girl for things that she doesn't have any control of. It's not her fault that her mom is in and out of jail and it's not her fault her father isn't there anymore either. He is taking it out on her, when he should be taking it up with her mom.It wasn't your fault that the people who adopted you beat on you either. Try telling them how you feel. It will help them understand all of them. Good Luck!
Answers: First of all, be nice to the girl - let her know that you love her. Teach her to avoid people who hurt her.
Then, you must know that there are laws against ill-usage of children - find a center or something where there are people who defend kids' rights.
read Dave Pelzer's books A Child Called It and The Lost Boy - that will show you what happens sometimes - so do something.
It sounds like your boyfriends brother is blaming the little girl for things that she doesn't have any control of. It's not her fault that her mom is in and out of jail and it's not her fault her father isn't there anymore either. He is taking it out on her, when he should be taking it up with her mom.It wasn't your fault that the people who adopted you beat on you either. Try telling them how you feel. It will help them understand all of them. Good Luck!
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