Should i make contact with my father?
Question: I haven't had much contact with my father for many years and although i know he's up for it he isn't taking responsibility for his action which really hurts. Although i want some kind of relationship, i'm so angry aswell and don't want him to think i've forgiven him. What do i do?
Answers: You tell him exactly how you feel, and how you have'nt forgiven him. Tell him everything you feel inside but mention before hand that this may hurt him but its something he is going to have to listen to in order to have a relationship with you. Also mention that he will have to earn your forgiveness and trust back and that it is not going to be easy.
Take the first step and contact him,he may feel as though he has no right to contact you since he hasn't been around for you in past years.If hes agreeable to meeting with you then tell him how you feel.Let him know that you feel angry and hurt but that you would like to somehow build a relationship that might one day develop into something special and help you to get beyond your current feelings.If he stands up and tries to meet you halfway on trying this then proceed slowly and get to know him.
If he refuses to meet with you or acts as if you have no right to feel hurt and angry when you do see him then bid him farewell and try to move on with your life without him.You can not build a relationship with him if he isn't willing to meet you halfway or capable of admitting that he is responsible for pushing you away and causing you pain. You've gotten along fine without him till now so you know you can continue to do so if you must.
well then dont talk to him if u feel that way.
Answers: You tell him exactly how you feel, and how you have'nt forgiven him. Tell him everything you feel inside but mention before hand that this may hurt him but its something he is going to have to listen to in order to have a relationship with you. Also mention that he will have to earn your forgiveness and trust back and that it is not going to be easy.
Take the first step and contact him,he may feel as though he has no right to contact you since he hasn't been around for you in past years.If hes agreeable to meeting with you then tell him how you feel.Let him know that you feel angry and hurt but that you would like to somehow build a relationship that might one day develop into something special and help you to get beyond your current feelings.If he stands up and tries to meet you halfway on trying this then proceed slowly and get to know him.
If he refuses to meet with you or acts as if you have no right to feel hurt and angry when you do see him then bid him farewell and try to move on with your life without him.You can not build a relationship with him if he isn't willing to meet you halfway or capable of admitting that he is responsible for pushing you away and causing you pain. You've gotten along fine without him till now so you know you can continue to do so if you must.
well then dont talk to him if u feel that way.
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