What is love? How can I be a true lover?
Question: I am very selfish. How can I not be?
I love someone, but I tend to own him always. and he gets fedup with that. I want him to do all things as they please me. I hardly bother about what pleases him. He cares alot for me, tries his best to make me and keep me happy, still I hurt him again and again. and this time... I kind of crossed all limits, broke his heart and trashed his honesty into pieces.
I asked for his graciousness and he apparantly forgave me, but I know he is hurt alot.
with time, he will be back I know, but how can I avoid doing so in future?
I just dont want to lose him, cant afford to do so.
I love him alot.. no doubt about that, but how can i get out of myself and think about him as a separate, independent being, different from me.
I should give him more space, how to do that?
I have asked alot I know...
any answers around?
I would be thankful, for taking the trouble of answering and for giving me ur time. it is truely preceious.
Thank you.
Rya.
Answers: Rya what made you fall for him in the first place.
Give into his desires and let him have Your undevided attention, try it for a week, let him know and how much you want him and spoil him with your love. Let him see that you are a Woman that want nothing but a loong, happy life with him. A life where you help eachother to grow as independent persons and as a couple, the more you feed eachoother the more you'll gain.
Wow... for the first time in my life, i see a girl who accepting her own mistakes and realizing that what she does and how she treats her loved one is WRONG.
Let me tell you something, you made a great start to CHANGING yourself, only by accepting your mistakes and knowing what your problem is, cause believe me, when people wanna change, those are just the things that they don't know how to deal with.
You don't have to be selfish, get it outta you otherwise sooner or later you'll pay for your actions. Cause remember, you never know important someone is to you untill you LOOSE them. I hope you're not that stupid to loose him just to find out how much you loved him. It seems that you've got a great guy by your side, why would you treat him like that ??
Why not respect him, trust him and most of all, treat him like he deserves to be treated. Do not be selfish, whatever the issue is, think about him, how would he feel about you doing this or that, would he like that, would he get mad at you, how would he feel ???? In a true love relationship, you always have to think for BOTH OF YOU, not only yourself. Selfishness isn't gonna get you anywhere, it will just destroy your relationship.
You're not the only one who has needs and wants that need to be pleased in a relationship. Think about all the needs and wants you have that need to be pleased, well, guess what ??? He has needs and wants that need to be pleased too, and they need to be pleased by you. So get out there, and change the way you treat somebody who loves you, before it's too late, before you loose him and end up crying every night like a lil baby.
As far as space goes, just don't ***** at him for every stupid lil thing as some girls do. Boys hate that. Simply, treat him as he deserves to be treated.
Hope i've been of some help and i hope you will be able to change for the sake of your relationship. It's never to let to make things right, all you gotta do is know what you want and fight for it, you need to be able to sacrifice EVERYTHING for LOVE, otherwise you'll never be a true lover.
This doesn't sound like love, sounds like you need him and you are just using him when it is convenient and he caught on
I love someone, but I tend to own him always. and he gets fedup with that. I want him to do all things as they please me. I hardly bother about what pleases him. He cares alot for me, tries his best to make me and keep me happy, still I hurt him again and again. and this time... I kind of crossed all limits, broke his heart and trashed his honesty into pieces.
I asked for his graciousness and he apparantly forgave me, but I know he is hurt alot.
with time, he will be back I know, but how can I avoid doing so in future?
I just dont want to lose him, cant afford to do so.
I love him alot.. no doubt about that, but how can i get out of myself and think about him as a separate, independent being, different from me.
I should give him more space, how to do that?
I have asked alot I know...
any answers around?
I would be thankful, for taking the trouble of answering and for giving me ur time. it is truely preceious.
Thank you.
Rya.
Answers: Rya what made you fall for him in the first place.
Give into his desires and let him have Your undevided attention, try it for a week, let him know and how much you want him and spoil him with your love. Let him see that you are a Woman that want nothing but a loong, happy life with him. A life where you help eachother to grow as independent persons and as a couple, the more you feed eachoother the more you'll gain.
Wow... for the first time in my life, i see a girl who accepting her own mistakes and realizing that what she does and how she treats her loved one is WRONG.
Let me tell you something, you made a great start to CHANGING yourself, only by accepting your mistakes and knowing what your problem is, cause believe me, when people wanna change, those are just the things that they don't know how to deal with.
You don't have to be selfish, get it outta you otherwise sooner or later you'll pay for your actions. Cause remember, you never know important someone is to you untill you LOOSE them. I hope you're not that stupid to loose him just to find out how much you loved him. It seems that you've got a great guy by your side, why would you treat him like that ??
Why not respect him, trust him and most of all, treat him like he deserves to be treated. Do not be selfish, whatever the issue is, think about him, how would he feel about you doing this or that, would he like that, would he get mad at you, how would he feel ???? In a true love relationship, you always have to think for BOTH OF YOU, not only yourself. Selfishness isn't gonna get you anywhere, it will just destroy your relationship.
You're not the only one who has needs and wants that need to be pleased in a relationship. Think about all the needs and wants you have that need to be pleased, well, guess what ??? He has needs and wants that need to be pleased too, and they need to be pleased by you. So get out there, and change the way you treat somebody who loves you, before it's too late, before you loose him and end up crying every night like a lil baby.
As far as space goes, just don't ***** at him for every stupid lil thing as some girls do. Boys hate that. Simply, treat him as he deserves to be treated.
Hope i've been of some help and i hope you will be able to change for the sake of your relationship. It's never to let to make things right, all you gotta do is know what you want and fight for it, you need to be able to sacrifice EVERYTHING for LOVE, otherwise you'll never be a true lover.
This doesn't sound like love, sounds like you need him and you are just using him when it is convenient and he caught on
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