Was this really a friend???

Question: I am not sure if we were ever really friends I have or had this friend, who would ask me to take her places( though never gave me for gas, always called when she wanted or needed something(sometimes calling just to see where I had been & calling several times a day), would love to talk about her problems, but never seem to want to listen to mine.She had a guy friend...he bought her things, paid her cell bills, paid on her bills, and she would treat him like dirt.She has even sucked me into buying her things and returns the favor. He would call her, then she would either double click the phone as to hang up on him, not answer at all, or end up just yelling at him.They never went out and one had sex once in 2 years. This guy seemed to be very nice...and as days went on....I could not take it any more seeing how she was just using him for his money,which he didn't have much of anyway. Also she was treating him like he was nothing.She always told me they were just friends, though he cared for her more than she did him. I had talked to him, to see if he was ok, and he said yes. He wanted to know why and I said well she told me that she just wanted to be friends....and he was puzzled, cause she is still leading him on. I told him he should just forget her, cause she does care about him.He wanted to know if she had a another guy, and I had let it slip that she had signed up on a dating site. So he calls her tells her he is shutting off her cell phone(it's in his name)...and says something about a new boyfriend. I guess she got mad, cause I was in town and when I got back, she yelled out her front door, then says to take care of my own life, and she will take care of hers....I am kinda relieved, cause now I will have more gas, more time for the things I have to do, more time for my kids, and my life will be less stressful...

I never did have much luck with girl-friends....lol

Answers: Well... what's done is done. I usually don't encourage anyone to get mixed up in people's relationships, but perhaps what you did is for the best. You may have saved the guy from a worse heartbreak than he had just experienced.
And for your part, she does sound parasitic... a friendship should go two-ways, it's unhealthy to let just one person absorb all the benefits for herself while the other suffers. Not to worry, hopefully what you did will help her realize her selfish attitude. Plus, not all girls are like her, there are others who will brighten your day instead of always asking something from you. Good for you, for speaking your mind and trying to do what's right :)

No she wasnt a friend and that was good that you told the guy about it or otherwise he would be really hurt you seem like a really good person at heart and if she cant except that then forget her. I will be your friend cause you need somebody that you can trust. You need your space sometimes and you said you have kids does she not understand u wanna spend time with your kids. Im 16 and i can really relate to your story because i had a friend who did stuff like that to a guy so im really sorry about what has happend and just know that it makes you stronger as a person today so dont let anybody fool you okay? always dana you can email me at babyboo200320042003@yahoo.com if you ever wanna talk have a good day

you did both of you a favor. yours is obvious.
hers I don't know what the name of her problem is,
but you were what is called an enabaler

She sure didn't sound like it did she. She doesn't seem like she is to nice of a person either. Count your blessings that she is out of your life.

she's a user.

you did the right thing. all she wanted from you is money so you did the right thing

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