I suspect a guy I work with has a crush on me, he's very nice to me but he is nice to others, how do I know?
Question: He insists on buying me lunch when we work together alone. And the strange thing, he called me today on his day off - he was drunk - and told me that because I was on vacation last week that he missed me and just wanted to talk to me. And he asked me if I would come see him sometime at his house. He has also told me numerous times that he cares about me. Don't get me wrong, he has never made any improper moves toward me. And by the way, I am happily married. What do I do?
Answers: I presume u havnt hidden ur marital status frm dis guy? or is der a chance dat he might be taking u for a single? if da answer for both the quesns is no den we'd have to make sure of one thing. is he just being nice or if he is really into n doesnt care for ur marriege?
but i say, y waste time in guessing? let's take another approach. r u happy wid ur marriage? r u tempted to be unfaithful to ur husband? if there's some problem wid ur marriage den i'd say u work it out 1st as u owe it to ur spouse as well as ur families.
if however u r not at all interested in dis guy but r just worried wid his behaviour den i'd say relax. he cant make u breake ur marriage unless u want to. but stil if u r worried den i'd say put up some distance between him.
dont go out of ur way to talk to him or anything n if he comes to u be formal n limit ur conversation to work. if he calls at ur home n talks about anything u rnt comfertable with make an excuse of being busy n end da conversation. if he keeps calling again n again den u/ur husband even have da right to tell him off to the point of being rude. if he intvites u to his place again make it clear to him dat u'd do so only wid ur family.
if after all this he still persists but doesnt say anything dat u can hold against him try seeking help from ur superior at office. no need to go into details if u dont want to just ask for some assignment that wud keep u away from him.
if all this doesnt work den take da bul by it's horns. tell this guy in no uncertain terms dat his affection n care for u shud be limited as a co-worker n nothing more.
If you're married and don't want to mess it up, you should tell the guy at work about it. If you want to talk to him then do so.
Tell him your not interested in a not so mean way.
never date anyone at work... everybody knows or will know... and you will be the topic of the day if that happens...
go and ask him and if he says yes tell him to take that thought out of his mind because you arealready married and you are happy.but tell him that you both can still be friends.
ALL THE BEST
Answers: I presume u havnt hidden ur marital status frm dis guy? or is der a chance dat he might be taking u for a single? if da answer for both the quesns is no den we'd have to make sure of one thing. is he just being nice or if he is really into n doesnt care for ur marriege?
but i say, y waste time in guessing? let's take another approach. r u happy wid ur marriage? r u tempted to be unfaithful to ur husband? if there's some problem wid ur marriage den i'd say u work it out 1st as u owe it to ur spouse as well as ur families.
if however u r not at all interested in dis guy but r just worried wid his behaviour den i'd say relax. he cant make u breake ur marriage unless u want to. but stil if u r worried den i'd say put up some distance between him.
dont go out of ur way to talk to him or anything n if he comes to u be formal n limit ur conversation to work. if he calls at ur home n talks about anything u rnt comfertable with make an excuse of being busy n end da conversation. if he keeps calling again n again den u/ur husband even have da right to tell him off to the point of being rude. if he intvites u to his place again make it clear to him dat u'd do so only wid ur family.
if after all this he still persists but doesnt say anything dat u can hold against him try seeking help from ur superior at office. no need to go into details if u dont want to just ask for some assignment that wud keep u away from him.
if all this doesnt work den take da bul by it's horns. tell this guy in no uncertain terms dat his affection n care for u shud be limited as a co-worker n nothing more.
If you're married and don't want to mess it up, you should tell the guy at work about it. If you want to talk to him then do so.
Tell him your not interested in a not so mean way.
never date anyone at work... everybody knows or will know... and you will be the topic of the day if that happens...
go and ask him and if he says yes tell him to take that thought out of his mind because you arealready married and you are happy.but tell him that you both can still be friends.
ALL THE BEST
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