How can I make my wife tell me the truth about with whom she have sex before our marriage? She said no one.?
Question: She got married when she was 18 years old, but her husband died in a car accident one year later, she had active sex life during that year and become widow with one baby. Five years later (2005) she married me (I am 36 years old). When I asked about her past sex life she says she did not have sexual relations with nobody until me in year 2004.
I can't trust her because that means 5 years of not having sex which seems to me impossible considering human biological needs. I would have trusted her if she told me she had sex with one or two persons during those 5 years but not having sexual relations copulation with nobody is a thing I do not believe. I have told her that there is no difference for me I love her either if she had or not had sexual relations those years but it's a matter of trust and confidence for me.
How can I convince her or make her tell me the truth?
Hypnosis?, Any specific way of asking? Truth methods?
She is catholic and she was unable to swear she didn't have sex
Answers: I feel sorry for your wife. Hypnosis!? Truth Methods!? YOU need to get some therapy fast before you destroy your life. You are a control freak! Get a handle on yourself. Seek help. You are letting things eat at you and that can turn you into a real monster. WHAT possible difference does it make what she did prior to your marriage? YOU married her! Look to the future not the past. You say it is a matter of trust and confidence for me. What about trusting her? What about having confidence in her? I hope she married you because she loves you. If you continue to be the control freak that you obviously are, she may not love you for long. Relax, have some fun together, laugh together. Life is short and you are making it shorter. As for some of the people urging you to delve deeper into this control madness I would suggest therapy for them also. I don't know EVERYTHING about my wife's past. I don't need to. I am far more interested in our today than her yesterday. Anyway, as for it being IMPOSSIBLE to go 5 years without sex, I think if you continue to treat her the way you are, you may well get the chance to go 5 years without sex yourself.
Dude, it sounds quite complicated. I can't believe she did not have sex with anybody either! Have you ever think of Hypnotism?
I think you should leave it alone. That is the past and you are in the present. Digging up the past when you needn't to can damage what you have right now. Personally in many relationships, I seen when a partner does this in their relationship jealousy leaks out. If you trust her and love her let this go. Just learn ACCEPTANCE, that people DO have past relationships--even sexual histories. That is the past. What you can do in the meantime is learn acceptance and letting go--not for her but for you.
you should just let it go
A relationship should be built on trust. The two of you have problems. You need to work on this Trust issue or you will only have bigger problems in the future.
For now, let it go. Work on Trust. Work on Communication. Get professional help if you need it. When the two of you trust one another, then you might look at this issue of past bed partners again.
that's a shortest way of ruining your marriage.Leave it be.
Ive been in the same thing. My boyfriend is drop dead sexy. So when I aske dhim who he had sex with other that his little girls mother, he wuoldn't tell me. So one night after amazing sez i looked him in the eye and tol him that I love him no matter what, and i asked him baby how many people have you had sex with, and who? I said I'll still love you and be just as much attracted to you as I am not So he told me. Come to find out I was the 2nd person he has had sex with. That's why he wouldn't tell me. Some people feel embarassed by how few or how much people they haev slept with. And most likely she hasn't had sex. If she was to die could you see yourself being able to move on and have sex with another woman? It wouldn't be the same, and you really wouldn't like it. Or it would take a while for you to be able to have sex again. Just ask her the way i asked my boyfriend
I agree totally with Faszeuw!!! Just accept her wishes to not tell you, and leave it alone, and move on with your lives together...maybe she's afraid that jealousy will leak out and ruin the relationship the two of you have now. If you really love her, it shouldn't matter to you since she is with YOU now, leave the past in the past, and move on with the future...don't let this become an obsession with you or you just may ruin what you have together anyway. Is that what you really want? You can say that you won't get jealous or throw it up to her sometime in the future when you're mad, but don't expect her to beleive that any more than you beleive what she is saying about her past sexual relationships...can you understand that?? Oh, and hypnotizing her against her will, or letting her sexual past be part of the info obtained during the hypnotism, is just plain wrong of you to do to her...that will cause her to not trust you at all...it's a mean trick! If you can't let this go, and if it matters that much to you, then why did you marry her in the first place...so that you can torture her with your constant questions about it?? Also mean!
Sounds to me that you have a problem. I know of many woman that have gone on a lot longer than five years without sex. Sex is more important to a man than most woman I know. In any event I really don't think if she did have sex with anyone before you that is really any of your business. What is your business is what she does after she met you.
hello,my answer to u is this tell that u had some thing to confess to her that was the reason you wanted to know if she would have the spirit to tell you the slightest of her past which means nothing to the present,but since she can not be simply truthful then there can be no trust of ur sharing what u have for her. if not why dont you just forget about it all and just let the past remain in the past. your Gina
How many, who, where, when, why, how, or ANYTHING else about your wife's sex life BEFORE meeting you, IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!
Let it ALONE. GIVE IT UP. It is NOT your right to know.
You said that that the answer will not change the way you feel about her, so why persist? What does it matter?
She answered you question. YOU CHOOSE not to believe her. You said it's a matter of trust and confidence for me . NO it isn't. This is a matter of trust and EGO for you. I agree with Richard, you need help and/or councelling for YOUR trust issues.
You wife's 1st husband died. She was suddenly robbed of the love of her life and left to be a single parent very unexpectantly. Her life was turned upside down in an instant. AND YOU THINK that what a man has between his legs is SO POWERFUL that a woman living through the worst nightmare of her life, is biologically driven like an animal to it, despite what is going on in her life? You do not believe a HUMAN can live 5 yrs without sex?????? What kind of ego-maniac planet are you from??????
You said She is catholic and she was unable to swear she didn't have sex . Once again she answered you! You CHOOSE NOT to believe her. Maybe she is just so MORTIFIED by your insistance, that she refuses to dignify it any further.
You sound more like you are 16 rather than 36. Grow up.
You know what?
FIRST, it IS possible for people to go YEARS without SEX. It has been known to happen
SECOND, it is non of your g*d damn business, whether you're married to her or NOT.
THIRD, if you're making such an issue about it, I think you have some issues of your own to work out.
GET out of her face. It's not your business, and it's not your problem. AND if you have a hard time trusting her because it just doesn't seem possible to you....or for ANY reason, for that matter.....maybe you should just LEAVE. I sure as hell wouldn't want somebody like you around....
Jesus! Some people, I swear
Let it go. It's a question that you will never get a satisfactory answer to. You think you are just curious, but if you find out there has been one, then that means she was lying, so now you want to know if there was more than one. Maybe it was the whole neighborhood. And how do you compare? And if she had all those other guys, will she be happy with just you?
The question you should be asking is, do I believe she will be faithful to me? If she will, the rest doesn't matter.
Let it go
I can't trust her because that means 5 years of not having sex which seems to me impossible considering human biological needs. I would have trusted her if she told me she had sex with one or two persons during those 5 years but not having sexual relations copulation with nobody is a thing I do not believe. I have told her that there is no difference for me I love her either if she had or not had sexual relations those years but it's a matter of trust and confidence for me.
How can I convince her or make her tell me the truth?
Hypnosis?, Any specific way of asking? Truth methods?
She is catholic and she was unable to swear she didn't have sex
Answers: I feel sorry for your wife. Hypnosis!? Truth Methods!? YOU need to get some therapy fast before you destroy your life. You are a control freak! Get a handle on yourself. Seek help. You are letting things eat at you and that can turn you into a real monster. WHAT possible difference does it make what she did prior to your marriage? YOU married her! Look to the future not the past. You say it is a matter of trust and confidence for me. What about trusting her? What about having confidence in her? I hope she married you because she loves you. If you continue to be the control freak that you obviously are, she may not love you for long. Relax, have some fun together, laugh together. Life is short and you are making it shorter. As for some of the people urging you to delve deeper into this control madness I would suggest therapy for them also. I don't know EVERYTHING about my wife's past. I don't need to. I am far more interested in our today than her yesterday. Anyway, as for it being IMPOSSIBLE to go 5 years without sex, I think if you continue to treat her the way you are, you may well get the chance to go 5 years without sex yourself.
Dude, it sounds quite complicated. I can't believe she did not have sex with anybody either! Have you ever think of Hypnotism?
I think you should leave it alone. That is the past and you are in the present. Digging up the past when you needn't to can damage what you have right now. Personally in many relationships, I seen when a partner does this in their relationship jealousy leaks out. If you trust her and love her let this go. Just learn ACCEPTANCE, that people DO have past relationships--even sexual histories. That is the past. What you can do in the meantime is learn acceptance and letting go--not for her but for you.
you should just let it go
A relationship should be built on trust. The two of you have problems. You need to work on this Trust issue or you will only have bigger problems in the future.
For now, let it go. Work on Trust. Work on Communication. Get professional help if you need it. When the two of you trust one another, then you might look at this issue of past bed partners again.
that's a shortest way of ruining your marriage.Leave it be.
Ive been in the same thing. My boyfriend is drop dead sexy. So when I aske dhim who he had sex with other that his little girls mother, he wuoldn't tell me. So one night after amazing sez i looked him in the eye and tol him that I love him no matter what, and i asked him baby how many people have you had sex with, and who? I said I'll still love you and be just as much attracted to you as I am not So he told me. Come to find out I was the 2nd person he has had sex with. That's why he wouldn't tell me. Some people feel embarassed by how few or how much people they haev slept with. And most likely she hasn't had sex. If she was to die could you see yourself being able to move on and have sex with another woman? It wouldn't be the same, and you really wouldn't like it. Or it would take a while for you to be able to have sex again. Just ask her the way i asked my boyfriend
I agree totally with Faszeuw!!! Just accept her wishes to not tell you, and leave it alone, and move on with your lives together...maybe she's afraid that jealousy will leak out and ruin the relationship the two of you have now. If you really love her, it shouldn't matter to you since she is with YOU now, leave the past in the past, and move on with the future...don't let this become an obsession with you or you just may ruin what you have together anyway. Is that what you really want? You can say that you won't get jealous or throw it up to her sometime in the future when you're mad, but don't expect her to beleive that any more than you beleive what she is saying about her past sexual relationships...can you understand that?? Oh, and hypnotizing her against her will, or letting her sexual past be part of the info obtained during the hypnotism, is just plain wrong of you to do to her...that will cause her to not trust you at all...it's a mean trick! If you can't let this go, and if it matters that much to you, then why did you marry her in the first place...so that you can torture her with your constant questions about it?? Also mean!
Sounds to me that you have a problem. I know of many woman that have gone on a lot longer than five years without sex. Sex is more important to a man than most woman I know. In any event I really don't think if she did have sex with anyone before you that is really any of your business. What is your business is what she does after she met you.
hello,my answer to u is this tell that u had some thing to confess to her that was the reason you wanted to know if she would have the spirit to tell you the slightest of her past which means nothing to the present,but since she can not be simply truthful then there can be no trust of ur sharing what u have for her. if not why dont you just forget about it all and just let the past remain in the past. your Gina
How many, who, where, when, why, how, or ANYTHING else about your wife's sex life BEFORE meeting you, IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!
Let it ALONE. GIVE IT UP. It is NOT your right to know.
You said that that the answer will not change the way you feel about her, so why persist? What does it matter?
She answered you question. YOU CHOOSE not to believe her. You said it's a matter of trust and confidence for me . NO it isn't. This is a matter of trust and EGO for you. I agree with Richard, you need help and/or councelling for YOUR trust issues.
You wife's 1st husband died. She was suddenly robbed of the love of her life and left to be a single parent very unexpectantly. Her life was turned upside down in an instant. AND YOU THINK that what a man has between his legs is SO POWERFUL that a woman living through the worst nightmare of her life, is biologically driven like an animal to it, despite what is going on in her life? You do not believe a HUMAN can live 5 yrs without sex?????? What kind of ego-maniac planet are you from??????
You said She is catholic and she was unable to swear she didn't have sex . Once again she answered you! You CHOOSE NOT to believe her. Maybe she is just so MORTIFIED by your insistance, that she refuses to dignify it any further.
You sound more like you are 16 rather than 36. Grow up.
You know what?
FIRST, it IS possible for people to go YEARS without SEX. It has been known to happen
SECOND, it is non of your g*d damn business, whether you're married to her or NOT.
THIRD, if you're making such an issue about it, I think you have some issues of your own to work out.
GET out of her face. It's not your business, and it's not your problem. AND if you have a hard time trusting her because it just doesn't seem possible to you....or for ANY reason, for that matter.....maybe you should just LEAVE. I sure as hell wouldn't want somebody like you around....
Jesus! Some people, I swear
Let it go. It's a question that you will never get a satisfactory answer to. You think you are just curious, but if you find out there has been one, then that means she was lying, so now you want to know if there was more than one. Maybe it was the whole neighborhood. And how do you compare? And if she had all those other guys, will she be happy with just you?
The question you should be asking is, do I believe she will be faithful to me? If she will, the rest doesn't matter.
Let it go
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