How do you jus stop loving someone after 6 years?
Question: he told me on 3/31/05 he wants a divorce we are stll together. he still wants sex, says he still loves me.
Now he's doing all kinds of things I don't like. Very secretive, hides things from me. Makes plans and tells me nothing about them. What's with this man? He's 56/ i'm 51 and our sex life use to be wonderful ....when he mentioned divorce the sex life stopped. when he went to strip clubs...everything stopped.! I just don't know what to think
Answers: I think you two are totally over. Sometime soon, this relationship will fall apart. You know it won't work out no matter how long you keep dragging it. He's doing all this because he thinks he's single again. He wants to be free. Therefore, if he wants more than you, why would you keep him?
If you love him, you'll let him go. Give him his freedom. He's done.
if ur asking this kind of Q on the internet,wouldnt it mean that u already hates him??..and doesnt hating somebody means u already stopped loving him??..
congratulations!!uve done it already...
Time to stop being a doormat.
He does these things to you simply because you ALLOW him to do so. In essence, you're enabling his bad behaviour.
Get tough with him. Set some rules, give him an untimatum and force his hand in the situation. If he's with you, so be it. If he wants to separate, let him go.
But either way, find out where you stand.
And stop being his backstop to fall back on when he feels horny.
You owe it to yourself to have more self respect and courage, and to have someone who loves you as much as you love him.
Talk to him first and know what really bothers him, be patient and never raise your voice , this will only lead to the person to clamp up.This happens not only to young person but especially to older person.Because unconsciously that person is telling himself that he's getting older and nobody is attracted to him anymore unlike when he is young.that's why you'll see a lot of older guys going into clubs and getting attracted to young females.
you just cant stop loving someone, you might wake up suddenly and say that you dont love him, but when you analyze it, you'll realize that there are signs that the relationship is really over and the only option open is for you to move on.
If you love him, Take courage and know. Knowledge is power. It can also save or break your marriage.
God bless! ^-^
Well I kinda have the same problem with my wife after 25 years......... And I dont understand it but chances are great he has got a g/f may-be has far has makeing plans may-be he's going through a little male menopause!!
First of all you don't stop loving someone after six years, ten years or whatever. You put them to the back of your mind and move on with life. It sounds to me that he is going through and age thing. He's reallizing he's getting old and probably thinks that by going to stip clubs etc that it will help bring back some of his youth. The girls there don't care what age you are, they'll flurt and dance for you in hopes of getting more money from you. Why did sex life stop when he mentioned divorce? was that his idea or yours to stop it? I'm assuming that it was your idea cause you probably felt he was getting it somewhere else and didn't want to take a chance of disease or whatever. I think now would be a good time for you two to get into councelling unless he won't do it and if he won't then just move on with your life and forget about what he's doing.
easy,many reasons, you should find out from him the reason he is behaving in this manner.maybe you need to change a few things about your self.talk to the guy,its six years fpr crying out loud,and he owes you the answers.you not getting any younger,so why waste time, move along,sister.
Now he's doing all kinds of things I don't like. Very secretive, hides things from me. Makes plans and tells me nothing about them. What's with this man? He's 56/ i'm 51 and our sex life use to be wonderful ....when he mentioned divorce the sex life stopped. when he went to strip clubs...everything stopped.! I just don't know what to think
Answers: I think you two are totally over. Sometime soon, this relationship will fall apart. You know it won't work out no matter how long you keep dragging it. He's doing all this because he thinks he's single again. He wants to be free. Therefore, if he wants more than you, why would you keep him?
If you love him, you'll let him go. Give him his freedom. He's done.
if ur asking this kind of Q on the internet,wouldnt it mean that u already hates him??..and doesnt hating somebody means u already stopped loving him??..
congratulations!!uve done it already...
Time to stop being a doormat.
He does these things to you simply because you ALLOW him to do so. In essence, you're enabling his bad behaviour.
Get tough with him. Set some rules, give him an untimatum and force his hand in the situation. If he's with you, so be it. If he wants to separate, let him go.
But either way, find out where you stand.
And stop being his backstop to fall back on when he feels horny.
You owe it to yourself to have more self respect and courage, and to have someone who loves you as much as you love him.
Talk to him first and know what really bothers him, be patient and never raise your voice , this will only lead to the person to clamp up.This happens not only to young person but especially to older person.Because unconsciously that person is telling himself that he's getting older and nobody is attracted to him anymore unlike when he is young.that's why you'll see a lot of older guys going into clubs and getting attracted to young females.
you just cant stop loving someone, you might wake up suddenly and say that you dont love him, but when you analyze it, you'll realize that there are signs that the relationship is really over and the only option open is for you to move on.
If you love him, Take courage and know. Knowledge is power. It can also save or break your marriage.
God bless! ^-^
Well I kinda have the same problem with my wife after 25 years......... And I dont understand it but chances are great he has got a g/f may-be has far has makeing plans may-be he's going through a little male menopause!!
First of all you don't stop loving someone after six years, ten years or whatever. You put them to the back of your mind and move on with life. It sounds to me that he is going through and age thing. He's reallizing he's getting old and probably thinks that by going to stip clubs etc that it will help bring back some of his youth. The girls there don't care what age you are, they'll flurt and dance for you in hopes of getting more money from you. Why did sex life stop when he mentioned divorce? was that his idea or yours to stop it? I'm assuming that it was your idea cause you probably felt he was getting it somewhere else and didn't want to take a chance of disease or whatever. I think now would be a good time for you two to get into councelling unless he won't do it and if he won't then just move on with your life and forget about what he's doing.
easy,many reasons, you should find out from him the reason he is behaving in this manner.maybe you need to change a few things about your self.talk to the guy,its six years fpr crying out loud,and he owes you the answers.you not getting any younger,so why waste time, move along,sister.
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