I need womens advise as for what i did to my children and husband?
Question: i wasnt thinking as what i had done. when i had the affair with tha.19. year old .i am.46. i lost my husband. as well my kids hate me i had this with him for.3. months. and in that time by husband was busy working we. my husband never had sex with me in that time i was with the.19. year old or after that i found out i have .clidimia. i dont know what to do my husband filed for divorce i need help from women here please on this i love my husband but now he wont even talk to me now
Answers: You hurt him with the worst possible thing, you cheated on him. I doubt you can do anything especially since you contracted an STD. Looks like you might wanna hook up with the 19yr old or find someone new. Unless he wants to go to a marriage counsler
try writing him a letter, or leaving him a message on his voice mail, maybe he wont talk to you but maybe he will listen to what you have to say, keep saying how sorry you are for what you have done and ask him to go to marrige consoling with you or if there is anything in the world you could do to make it up to him. You also need to talk to your kids, i dont know how old they are but if they are old enough to be mad at you for it they would prolly be old enough to understand that you are sorry and that you still love them.
You really need to go to family therapy. If your husband won't go with you, please go on your own- and take your children. Good luck.
If you truly loved your husband and kids you wouldnt have done it as for getting a STD good for you what gose around comes around(what you did to your husband
Stop beating yourself up over this. You made a mistake and a person can apologize just so many times. Whether or not your children and hubby forgive you is entirely up to them.
To err is human, to forgive is divine.
Learn from your mistakes, don't repeat them and do the very best you can. The rest is up to your family.
If ever someone got what they deserve its you my dear.
My advice, is to not take stuff said on this sight tooooo personally. We cant judge you if we havent walked in your shoes. We all make mistakes. Chlymidia is easily cured so dont worry about it. Your family have all been hurt yes. You were looking for love and companionship most likely that you weren't receiving at home. Im not saying what you did was right, but pick yourself up, let them feel what they feel and listen when they go off on you. You made a choice, live with the consequences, and learn from them. You will come out a better person in the end. Even if he wont go with you, talk to a counselor if you can. I went through alot with my lonely sexless marriage as well. You arent alone.
Iam sorry but it seems that your husbabd is so sad about it which is normal.
try to talk to him or ask some one who you knwo and he will trust talk to him.
Let him know that you love him and kids and are soooooo sorry and you do not want to lose them.
you can not make him to forgive you or forget what you did but in taht way you have tried and you know that he knows you are sorry.
It is too late but try your best
if i understand this question . you love your husband. right? and i also read he was doing both your work as well as his right?lady? if you truly loved your husband you would vever disgraced your children as well lost your husband in the start with one simple answer do you drop your panties to every .19 year old kid or every one who tells you he loves you if so you are very sicking in my opion . and you got a .cdc. from this.19. year old lady you need to look at yourself you seem to feel sorry for yourself well i dont feel sorry for you in the least why dont you have the *** to tell your.dr. who all you have been with if you have tested postive for this you might have the gall to be a woman to let everyone you have been with know what you have ok. i can see why he has filed divorce . i wouldent wish you on my worst dog. and lady you really think a.19. year old would really want to take you home to meet his family in my honest opon you are old enought to be this.19. year olds . mother. you have no shame at all you really got what you asked for i feel for your children as for your husband he would be stupid to even stay with you . why did you do your family like this to start with . you ought to know a. boy.19. dont want a mommy you was only a easy thing in my opion and lady i am a man to boot in my opion again you are very sicking ?
WOW! Sweety you really made a BIG mistake didn't you? Good thing we're human and we do that from time to time. I would like to say it will all work out fine and honestly IT WILL, either way. But in truth you have to be able to forgive yourself AS well as your family forgiving you hon. Your hubby is hurt TWICE. First from the affair second from the fact you caught an STD. Try writing him a letter apologizing AND explaining why you did what you did. Then make an appointment for a councelor sending him an invitation to join you, just the two of you. I know your children will also need help BUT you and your husband have to decide if it can be mended first. And regardless if it can or can't PLEASE continue with your counseling so that you can learn from your mistakes, help yourself to understand why you made the mistake and ALSO because sometimes when we do wrong and others are hurt and they wont forgive us, we decide we dont deserve to be forgiven. And this my dear is just UNTRUE. If we are sincere in our apologies and if we truly have learned from our mistakes then we are very worthy of forgiveness. The only thing i find TRULY AMAZING about these situations is that when a man falters he's just a man but when a woman falters she's UNFORGIVABLE . You have to have it in yourself to be forgiven sweety. Do you?
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Answers: You hurt him with the worst possible thing, you cheated on him. I doubt you can do anything especially since you contracted an STD. Looks like you might wanna hook up with the 19yr old or find someone new. Unless he wants to go to a marriage counsler
try writing him a letter, or leaving him a message on his voice mail, maybe he wont talk to you but maybe he will listen to what you have to say, keep saying how sorry you are for what you have done and ask him to go to marrige consoling with you or if there is anything in the world you could do to make it up to him. You also need to talk to your kids, i dont know how old they are but if they are old enough to be mad at you for it they would prolly be old enough to understand that you are sorry and that you still love them.
You really need to go to family therapy. If your husband won't go with you, please go on your own- and take your children. Good luck.
If you truly loved your husband and kids you wouldnt have done it as for getting a STD good for you what gose around comes around(what you did to your husband
Stop beating yourself up over this. You made a mistake and a person can apologize just so many times. Whether or not your children and hubby forgive you is entirely up to them.
To err is human, to forgive is divine.
Learn from your mistakes, don't repeat them and do the very best you can. The rest is up to your family.
If ever someone got what they deserve its you my dear.
My advice, is to not take stuff said on this sight tooooo personally. We cant judge you if we havent walked in your shoes. We all make mistakes. Chlymidia is easily cured so dont worry about it. Your family have all been hurt yes. You were looking for love and companionship most likely that you weren't receiving at home. Im not saying what you did was right, but pick yourself up, let them feel what they feel and listen when they go off on you. You made a choice, live with the consequences, and learn from them. You will come out a better person in the end. Even if he wont go with you, talk to a counselor if you can. I went through alot with my lonely sexless marriage as well. You arent alone.
Iam sorry but it seems that your husbabd is so sad about it which is normal.
try to talk to him or ask some one who you knwo and he will trust talk to him.
Let him know that you love him and kids and are soooooo sorry and you do not want to lose them.
you can not make him to forgive you or forget what you did but in taht way you have tried and you know that he knows you are sorry.
It is too late but try your best
if i understand this question . you love your husband. right? and i also read he was doing both your work as well as his right?lady? if you truly loved your husband you would vever disgraced your children as well lost your husband in the start with one simple answer do you drop your panties to every .19 year old kid or every one who tells you he loves you if so you are very sicking in my opion . and you got a .cdc. from this.19. year old lady you need to look at yourself you seem to feel sorry for yourself well i dont feel sorry for you in the least why dont you have the *** to tell your.dr. who all you have been with if you have tested postive for this you might have the gall to be a woman to let everyone you have been with know what you have ok. i can see why he has filed divorce . i wouldent wish you on my worst dog. and lady you really think a.19. year old would really want to take you home to meet his family in my honest opon you are old enought to be this.19. year olds . mother. you have no shame at all you really got what you asked for i feel for your children as for your husband he would be stupid to even stay with you . why did you do your family like this to start with . you ought to know a. boy.19. dont want a mommy you was only a easy thing in my opion and lady i am a man to boot in my opion again you are very sicking ?
WOW! Sweety you really made a BIG mistake didn't you? Good thing we're human and we do that from time to time. I would like to say it will all work out fine and honestly IT WILL, either way. But in truth you have to be able to forgive yourself AS well as your family forgiving you hon. Your hubby is hurt TWICE. First from the affair second from the fact you caught an STD. Try writing him a letter apologizing AND explaining why you did what you did. Then make an appointment for a councelor sending him an invitation to join you, just the two of you. I know your children will also need help BUT you and your husband have to decide if it can be mended first. And regardless if it can or can't PLEASE continue with your counseling so that you can learn from your mistakes, help yourself to understand why you made the mistake and ALSO because sometimes when we do wrong and others are hurt and they wont forgive us, we decide we dont deserve to be forgiven. And this my dear is just UNTRUE. If we are sincere in our apologies and if we truly have learned from our mistakes then we are very worthy of forgiveness. The only thing i find TRULY AMAZING about these situations is that when a man falters he's just a man but when a woman falters she's UNFORGIVABLE . You have to have it in yourself to be forgiven sweety. Do you?
EVERYONE--READ THIS!!
This question is not real. This user has multiple other questions saying the same thing, just worded differently. This user has already been banned from Yahoo Answers once--but he/she is back. If you search for key terms in this question, you will find that this same thing is plastered elsewhere on the internet on forums and the such.
Either this user is trying to smear someone's name (since the questions usually are specific with a name, religion, and location) and/or the user is deranged and just does this for fun.
But whatever is going on--don't bother responding to this question. It is a waste of time as it has been asked by this user over and over again here and on forums elsewhere. Further, as fake questions like this undermine the quality of Yahoo Answers, do us all a favor and report these questions as abuse as they certainly are.
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