Why would a husband cheat on a wife that gives him EVERYTHING and his wife that just had his newborn son?
Answers: OK I think I need to EDIT this one a bit to clarify something
The primary reason men have affairs is because they have an Unmet need in the marriage.
Men having affairs is very prevelant after their wives give birth. Every one is focused on Mommmy for 9 months leading up to dilevery. and after birth every one focused on baby ( this is when moms usually suffer post pardum depression), but during this time Daddy is left in the back ground alone and usually forgotten.
((((EDIT)))) (During this time every possible fear you can imiagine is probably running through his head. every thing from {OMG I'll drop the baby}. TO How are we going to pay the bills, is the house big enough. and so on, )))) Also during this time the wife is making his life hell because she is hormonal, She is asking for strange food, crying at the drop of a hat. suddenly furious for no reason, and she is demanding to have all her needs met while hubby is working his *** off so he can show her how much he loves her.
Now I was lucky enough to have a granny who sat me down shortly after my wife, and I learned we would be expecting, and she had one of them talks. I was prepared for what was to come and I had a experienced woman to explain things for me. one who I trusted. and you know what I was still pertified. I can not remember a time in my life when I have ever been as scared as the 9 months before our son was born. Now it's easy to call this husband coward, weak or other silly names. but I can imiagine how he would feel the need to be held, like his wife would hold him and to have someone to listen as he shared his concerns. Granny was a saint who I'll never forget.
Read the book His needs, Her needs. it goes into great depth in regards to affairs.
First I would suggest asking for help from a professional.
Men especially have a difficult time breaking attachments. If you want to save the marriage then your going to have to face his NEED and you both need to learn what it is, and you have to find a way to fill that need so he does not return to the other woman.
You will need the help and support as well as someone to help sift through the lies that will come out. and there will be lies. you will need to follow his actions to make sure he does not return to the person who came along to care for his needs It will take time to rebuild the trust. but I think you will learn alot in this experience, both about your hubby and your self.
God Bless
and congrats on your new child
because he is an ***.
because he's a selfish jerk? because she's only saying she gives him everything ? because he's immature? because he's not happy? because he can't seem to do anything to make her happy? because he's freaked out by having a new child?
It sounds like because he is 1) immature and 2) selifish.
Can we say LOSER?
BECAUSE HE IS FREAKED BY ALL THAT. OR HE'S JUST AN ***.
He is a BIG LOSER.... he can not see goodthings tha the has and he can not enjoy his life.
Feel so bad for him he is a big big big LOSER
Maybe he takes the term. Love thy Neighbor , too literally.
My husband cheated on me when I was 6 months pregnant with our first child. When I asked him why he said he didn't know why. Just because. Sometimes I think men just cheat. Maybe he doesn't even know why he did. Maybe it sounded like fun at the time. Or whatever. I am not saying it's ok to cheat. I am just saying you may never know why.
I think he is being very selfish. Yes, people have needs. But, sometimes we must put them a side to give to those we love.
The primary reason men have affairs is because they have an Unmet need in the marriage.
Men having affairs is very prevelant after their wives give birth. Every one is focused on Mommmy for 9 months leading up to dilevery. and after birth every one focused on baby ( this is when moms usually suffer post pardum depression), but during this time Daddy is left in the back ground alone and usually forgotten.
((((EDIT)))) (During this time every possible fear you can imiagine is probably running through his head. every thing from {OMG I'll drop the baby}. TO How are we going to pay the bills, is the house big enough. and so on, )))) Also during this time the wife is making his life hell because she is hormonal, She is asking for strange food, crying at the drop of a hat. suddenly furious for no reason, and she is demanding to have all her needs met while hubby is working his *** off so he can show her how much he loves her.
Now I was lucky enough to have a granny who sat me down shortly after my wife, and I learned we would be expecting, and she had one of them talks. I was prepared for what was to come and I had a experienced woman to explain things for me. one who I trusted. and you know what I was still pertified. I can not remember a time in my life when I have ever been as scared as the 9 months before our son was born. Now it's easy to call this husband coward, weak or other silly names. but I can imiagine how he would feel the need to be held, like his wife would hold him and to have someone to listen as he shared his concerns. Granny was a saint who I'll never forget.
Read the book His needs, Her needs. it goes into great depth in regards to affairs.
First I would suggest asking for help from a professional.
Men especially have a difficult time breaking attachments. If you want to save the marriage then your going to have to face his NEED and you both need to learn what it is, and you have to find a way to fill that need so he does not return to the other woman.
You will need the help and support as well as someone to help sift through the lies that will come out. and there will be lies. you will need to follow his actions to make sure he does not return to the person who came along to care for his needs It will take time to rebuild the trust. but I think you will learn alot in this experience, both about your hubby and your self.
God Bless
and congrats on your new child
because he is an ***.
because he's a selfish jerk? because she's only saying she gives him everything ? because he's immature? because he's not happy? because he can't seem to do anything to make her happy? because he's freaked out by having a new child?
It sounds like because he is 1) immature and 2) selifish.
Can we say LOSER?
BECAUSE HE IS FREAKED BY ALL THAT. OR HE'S JUST AN ***.
He is a BIG LOSER.... he can not see goodthings tha the has and he can not enjoy his life.
Feel so bad for him he is a big big big LOSER
Maybe he takes the term. Love thy Neighbor , too literally.
My husband cheated on me when I was 6 months pregnant with our first child. When I asked him why he said he didn't know why. Just because. Sometimes I think men just cheat. Maybe he doesn't even know why he did. Maybe it sounded like fun at the time. Or whatever. I am not saying it's ok to cheat. I am just saying you may never know why.
I think he is being very selfish. Yes, people have needs. But, sometimes we must put them a side to give to those we love.
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