How in the HECK can you feel smothered in a marriage?????????
Answers: by getting married
Even in a marriage, people need their own space and time to be their own person.
I guess a person might feel smothered if everything had to be done with their partner, they didn't feel like they were allowed their own space or thoughts etc.
it is possible to simply spend too much time together...everyone is different and what is the right amount of time for one is not necessarily the right amount of time for the other...talk about it and compromise
then you have a different problem...you need to make a choice of make him make a choice
You can spend to much time together. Everyone needs time to themselves.
Some people are strong-willed,confident and independant.They are not used to having someone up their butt 24-7 intruding on their down time that they desperately need to recharge their mental batteries.Or demanding attention immediately when they're doing something that's important to them.They don't need to discuss their feelings or hear about someone elses when they have more important things to deal with.
If you're married to someone like this you need to sit them down and have a serious discussion with them and let them know how you feel 1 time.And you also need to LISTEN to what they have to say and you both need to come to a complete understanding as what you each need to do for the other so no one feels smothered.
For example----If a guy goes straight to the bar after work with his friends to blow off steam after a hard day,his wife should not call the bar 25 times to make sure he's there and ask who he's with,what he's doing and how long he'll be there getting madder each time she calls cos the man's gonna get up and go party elsewhere.The man should call his wife first and tell her where he is and how long he plans to be there and if it's longer than he expected he should call her again and let her know he's still there and when he's leaving so she'll know exactly when to expect him.It's merely a show of consideration and respect to do this.
A woman should do the same if she'll be out longer than expected.
The next day or as soon as possible they should do something together.Consideration and respect.Give it to receive it and you'll both feel happier.
Even in a marriage, people need their own space and time to be their own person.
I guess a person might feel smothered if everything had to be done with their partner, they didn't feel like they were allowed their own space or thoughts etc.
it is possible to simply spend too much time together...everyone is different and what is the right amount of time for one is not necessarily the right amount of time for the other...talk about it and compromise
then you have a different problem...you need to make a choice of make him make a choice
You can spend to much time together. Everyone needs time to themselves.
Some people are strong-willed,confident and independant.They are not used to having someone up their butt 24-7 intruding on their down time that they desperately need to recharge their mental batteries.Or demanding attention immediately when they're doing something that's important to them.They don't need to discuss their feelings or hear about someone elses when they have more important things to deal with.
If you're married to someone like this you need to sit them down and have a serious discussion with them and let them know how you feel 1 time.And you also need to LISTEN to what they have to say and you both need to come to a complete understanding as what you each need to do for the other so no one feels smothered.
For example----If a guy goes straight to the bar after work with his friends to blow off steam after a hard day,his wife should not call the bar 25 times to make sure he's there and ask who he's with,what he's doing and how long he'll be there getting madder each time she calls cos the man's gonna get up and go party elsewhere.The man should call his wife first and tell her where he is and how long he plans to be there and if it's longer than he expected he should call her again and let her know he's still there and when he's leaving so she'll know exactly when to expect him.It's merely a show of consideration and respect to do this.
A woman should do the same if she'll be out longer than expected.
The next day or as soon as possible they should do something together.Consideration and respect.Give it to receive it and you'll both feel happier.
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