Am i Wrong?
Question: My husband and I have been fighting latley alot most caused by my insecurity see he has two kid's with someone else who still tells him she misses him and loves him, he has another kid with someone else who he talks to every now and then, but he has all these friends male and female most female he had something to do with if not they know and talk to someone who has been with him. We can't go anywhere without him running into someone he knows, I feel crowed finally I came to the point to really take and give my all to trust in him. (after all atleast I tryied right) besides that he's my world. He tells me he cheated on me three days ago I felt so low and all he said was she wasn't worth it. I ask who I want to know, but I don't so I name names he said no one I know and he won't say who. I don't know how to over come this who does? The truth is I can't look at him the same not even kiss, when he touches me I feel so dirty like I was the one who commited this sin. AM I WRONG?
Answers: The mere fact that you are questioning wether or not you are wrong suggests to me that you are suffering from feelings of insecurity, and may be in a controlling relationship? You are never wrong for the way you feel, because feelings are just that, feelings. They are not wrong, or right. They do not need to be justified, you feel it, therefore, it is! But what I'm most concerned about, is what are you going to do about it?! I really feel that you are in a situation that can only get worse! I don't know what happened to you in your past that made you feel that this is what you are worth, but it is time to know better! It's time for a new day! One of growth, and change. One of hope and fulfillment! Life is not an easy road to travel, and often times we pick travel companions that hold us back and make the journey miserable. Another thing that makes life's journey miserable is heavy baggage that doesn't belong to us! Baggage we carry from as far back as we can remember, it's become our security blanket. I would encourage you to (metaphoricly speaking) stop where you are, and not take one move further until you have unloaded every single one of those bags from your lifetime, full of things that people have done to you out of their own grief, and let them go...it's not your problem anymore. Only then will you be able to rebuild your life, and enjoy the ride! Good luck, and God Speed!
You need to leave that idiot. He obviously doesn't respect you. He cheated on you, and on top of that he tells you about it as if he's commenting on a bad movie. He seems to be too involved with all of his friends when he should be involved with you. Do yourself a favor, and forget him.
He may be your world. But is he treating you like your his world ? From the sound of it NO. I know break ups can be painful and it feels like your world is falling apart. But I think you should walk away while you can still hold your head up high.
No. It's time to ditch Johhny Appleseed and sign up for a self-esteem class. Guys who cheat try to get you to ignore your instincts-DON'T-they are your best friends, they will save your life from misery. Seriosly, get out now. Call a lawyer first thing in the morning.
Remember this, if he will cheat once and tell you about it and you do nothing, he WILL keep cheating and maybe he will tell you, maybe he won't. Do you really want to take the risk that he may hook up with someone who has an STD? HIV/AIDS even? Get yourself out of that sitch and get some self-esteem classes! You are right, nothing will EVER be the same with him again! Good luck, whatever you decide!
Chic@, been there done that, and lost the T-shirt...I read all the answers so far, and one person said something VERY interesting...He might be your world, but are you HIS?
His children with other women will always be a link between him and those women, BUT he needs to put them in their place by telling them that their comments on loving and missing him are not welcome because he is married to you.
About his friends and running into people when you are out in public, I didn't think this would be an issue unless his friends are not YOUR friends too, that is what a marriage is all about...it isn't about MY friends or YOUR friends, it is about OUR friends and you should feel comfortable with them too.
About the cheating thing....there is NO excuse for anyone in a marriage to cheat...but don't torture yourself by wanting to know details, because that will just diminish your sense of self even further.
The fact that you cannot stand for him to touch you, well you have a very serious decision ahead of you, and I hope that you really think about it before making it.
My prayers are with you on this one Chic@
It probably wasnt worth it this time, but what about the last times, or better yet the next times he is a loser who is really really sure of his self, and pls dont ever tell a man or anyone else that a man is YOUR WORLD, not possible. World's can collide
Answers: The mere fact that you are questioning wether or not you are wrong suggests to me that you are suffering from feelings of insecurity, and may be in a controlling relationship? You are never wrong for the way you feel, because feelings are just that, feelings. They are not wrong, or right. They do not need to be justified, you feel it, therefore, it is! But what I'm most concerned about, is what are you going to do about it?! I really feel that you are in a situation that can only get worse! I don't know what happened to you in your past that made you feel that this is what you are worth, but it is time to know better! It's time for a new day! One of growth, and change. One of hope and fulfillment! Life is not an easy road to travel, and often times we pick travel companions that hold us back and make the journey miserable. Another thing that makes life's journey miserable is heavy baggage that doesn't belong to us! Baggage we carry from as far back as we can remember, it's become our security blanket. I would encourage you to (metaphoricly speaking) stop where you are, and not take one move further until you have unloaded every single one of those bags from your lifetime, full of things that people have done to you out of their own grief, and let them go...it's not your problem anymore. Only then will you be able to rebuild your life, and enjoy the ride! Good luck, and God Speed!
You need to leave that idiot. He obviously doesn't respect you. He cheated on you, and on top of that he tells you about it as if he's commenting on a bad movie. He seems to be too involved with all of his friends when he should be involved with you. Do yourself a favor, and forget him.
He may be your world. But is he treating you like your his world ? From the sound of it NO. I know break ups can be painful and it feels like your world is falling apart. But I think you should walk away while you can still hold your head up high.
No. It's time to ditch Johhny Appleseed and sign up for a self-esteem class. Guys who cheat try to get you to ignore your instincts-DON'T-they are your best friends, they will save your life from misery. Seriosly, get out now. Call a lawyer first thing in the morning.
Remember this, if he will cheat once and tell you about it and you do nothing, he WILL keep cheating and maybe he will tell you, maybe he won't. Do you really want to take the risk that he may hook up with someone who has an STD? HIV/AIDS even? Get yourself out of that sitch and get some self-esteem classes! You are right, nothing will EVER be the same with him again! Good luck, whatever you decide!
Chic@, been there done that, and lost the T-shirt...I read all the answers so far, and one person said something VERY interesting...He might be your world, but are you HIS?
His children with other women will always be a link between him and those women, BUT he needs to put them in their place by telling them that their comments on loving and missing him are not welcome because he is married to you.
About his friends and running into people when you are out in public, I didn't think this would be an issue unless his friends are not YOUR friends too, that is what a marriage is all about...it isn't about MY friends or YOUR friends, it is about OUR friends and you should feel comfortable with them too.
About the cheating thing....there is NO excuse for anyone in a marriage to cheat...but don't torture yourself by wanting to know details, because that will just diminish your sense of self even further.
The fact that you cannot stand for him to touch you, well you have a very serious decision ahead of you, and I hope that you really think about it before making it.
My prayers are with you on this one Chic@
It probably wasnt worth it this time, but what about the last times, or better yet the next times he is a loser who is really really sure of his self, and pls dont ever tell a man or anyone else that a man is YOUR WORLD, not possible. World's can collide
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