I can't seem to tell my mom and dad that iwant to get married next year but it is hard?
Question: my parents are difficult and they love my bf and he asked me to marry him when i was 15 and i haven't told them yet because im afraid of what they might say
Answers: The point of the matter is that you just don't know how they will react. The only way you're going to find out is by telling them. Once you've told them, then you can deal with the situation. If they think you're too young - prove them wrong by showing your maturity and committment to each other. Are you sure yourself that you want to get married to this guy? It's possible that this could be the reason why deep down you don't want to tell your parents? Just a suggestion.
If you are old enough to get married then they should not have a problem.
be the Man you think you are
walk right up to them and tell them period..
You didnt say YOUR age. If you are only 18, it wuold be best to wait. You have your whole life to get married. Get an education first! If it is TRUE love, it will endure.
they love you too im sure. and whatever they have to say, is cause they want you to be happy. my best friend got enganged at that age. and her parents asked her to wait till she was 18. she was ad at first, but it was the best idea, since now, she is 21, and not with him even since he left her for another girl.
OR they may be cool about it, and support you. either way, they have seen alot more then you... so take their love with open arms
just say it, they will accept it if you are both respectable and old enough to get married. Just dont do it in a public place, do it in private. Good Luck
well go on and do it .tell them get it over with.what you waiting on. good luck with that.
if you think you get make it for next year , why not.
go for it.
best of luck
Well if you'r old enogh who cares what they say.ELOPE.
its your life. you need to act as per your wishes.
You're 15? If you're only 15 that's below the legal marrying age so your parents may object to your getting married so young. I guess the best question to ask yourself is do you want to get married so soon and why? My advice to you is not to rush into things, marriage is a big step even for those of us who are older. Enjoy your life, your youth, reach for your goals first before embarking on a serious commitment. Goodluck!
scince you just answered my question ill answer youres i think you should just come forth and tell them even though they might hurt them at first you should still tell them because it would hurt alot more if they found out from someone else then from you. so you should just tell them
WELL IT SHOULDN'T BE HARD SINCE YOU HAVE GROWN OUT OF IT.ITS NOT HARD AT FIRST BECAUSE ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SAY SOMETHING THAT IS WAY OF THE POINT THEN SKIP RIGHT TO IT AND JUST SAY MOM SND DAD THIS MAN ASKED ME IFIF I WANTED TO GET MARRIED BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO SAY WHEN HE ASKED JUST TELL THEM HE ASKED YOU AND THEY WILL APPROVE YOU AND THAT IS A PROMISE.
Sit em down and tell em Mom & Dad your fiance's name and I are getting married it would be better to do that than go behind their back and elope they may be a little mad at first but than they will get over it and your parents will probarly help make all the arrangements
so you wanna get married? and your parents love the guy as well as you?? well...
if i have homework papers that need to be signed-- 2 A's a B and an F. then first i give my parents the F, then the B, then the A's cuz i know that i will leave them happy-
so all you have to do is pick and choose your timing- its easy, find them some good news, then BAMA! be like, ' hey, im getting married' then thell be like omg-then see wat happens.
--good luck--
ps.
if you are 15 and your parents say no... dont be too suprised cuz thats kinda young-- :/
I hate to ask but how old are you now? How long have you and your bf been together? And if your parents love him and don't have any problems with him then I dont see what they would have a problem with. But I don't have all the details. I can see how you could be scared of what they might say but might is the key word in there. Can you think of anything that they might point out that would be wrong if you 2 got married? If so think about what you could do or say to change there mind about it. Please let me know what you think and the answer to your questions. My email address is Taytayjomar@yahoo.com
Thanks and I hope I helped a lil bit.
TAY
be mature first to take a decision yourself and yes parents should know it of your decision as they always think of your best.
Well if you are still 15 you are too young to get married. HOWEVER Marriage is a big commitment that requires a lot of maturity to enter into. If you are old enough ( I would say at least 18) to get married and want to take on that commitment that requires such a huge amount of maturity then you should be mature enough to tell your parents. Just sit down and tell em. If they object firmly tell them that they have raised you this far and you are not their little girl anymore you are an adult and can make your own decisions. If they did their job right in raising you they should trust that they taught you right. If you are still acting immature though ( living for free in their home, not doing any small chores for them, not working, making them pay for all of your stuff, etc.) then they will be more likely to object.
Perhaps some counseling for you and your bf so you can make sure this isn't some puppy love and that you are both ready to step into this would help. Then you could tell mom and dad that you have completed that and that would show maturity. As well as making sure you are acting like the adult that you want them to see you as. Do this before you talk to them. Then you will have more valid points to argue back with instead of just BUT I LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES ME AND YOU CANT TELL US WHAT TO DO (which sounds childish no matter if its true or not)
Present them with a plan..... We went to counseling and have talked about all the responsibilities of marriage, we will live at such and such, I will continue my education, we will support ourselves by .... ETC. Just think of all their objections and make sure you have an adult answer ready with proof if need be
Answers: The point of the matter is that you just don't know how they will react. The only way you're going to find out is by telling them. Once you've told them, then you can deal with the situation. If they think you're too young - prove them wrong by showing your maturity and committment to each other. Are you sure yourself that you want to get married to this guy? It's possible that this could be the reason why deep down you don't want to tell your parents? Just a suggestion.
If you are old enough to get married then they should not have a problem.
be the Man you think you are
walk right up to them and tell them period..
You didnt say YOUR age. If you are only 18, it wuold be best to wait. You have your whole life to get married. Get an education first! If it is TRUE love, it will endure.
they love you too im sure. and whatever they have to say, is cause they want you to be happy. my best friend got enganged at that age. and her parents asked her to wait till she was 18. she was ad at first, but it was the best idea, since now, she is 21, and not with him even since he left her for another girl.
OR they may be cool about it, and support you. either way, they have seen alot more then you... so take their love with open arms
just say it, they will accept it if you are both respectable and old enough to get married. Just dont do it in a public place, do it in private. Good Luck
well go on and do it .tell them get it over with.what you waiting on. good luck with that.
if you think you get make it for next year , why not.
go for it.
best of luck
Well if you'r old enogh who cares what they say.ELOPE.
its your life. you need to act as per your wishes.
You're 15? If you're only 15 that's below the legal marrying age so your parents may object to your getting married so young. I guess the best question to ask yourself is do you want to get married so soon and why? My advice to you is not to rush into things, marriage is a big step even for those of us who are older. Enjoy your life, your youth, reach for your goals first before embarking on a serious commitment. Goodluck!
scince you just answered my question ill answer youres i think you should just come forth and tell them even though they might hurt them at first you should still tell them because it would hurt alot more if they found out from someone else then from you. so you should just tell them
WELL IT SHOULDN'T BE HARD SINCE YOU HAVE GROWN OUT OF IT.ITS NOT HARD AT FIRST BECAUSE ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SAY SOMETHING THAT IS WAY OF THE POINT THEN SKIP RIGHT TO IT AND JUST SAY MOM SND DAD THIS MAN ASKED ME IFIF I WANTED TO GET MARRIED BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO SAY WHEN HE ASKED JUST TELL THEM HE ASKED YOU AND THEY WILL APPROVE YOU AND THAT IS A PROMISE.
Sit em down and tell em Mom & Dad your fiance's name and I are getting married it would be better to do that than go behind their back and elope they may be a little mad at first but than they will get over it and your parents will probarly help make all the arrangements
so you wanna get married? and your parents love the guy as well as you?? well...
if i have homework papers that need to be signed-- 2 A's a B and an F. then first i give my parents the F, then the B, then the A's cuz i know that i will leave them happy-
so all you have to do is pick and choose your timing- its easy, find them some good news, then BAMA! be like, ' hey, im getting married' then thell be like omg-then see wat happens.
--good luck--
ps.
if you are 15 and your parents say no... dont be too suprised cuz thats kinda young-- :/
I hate to ask but how old are you now? How long have you and your bf been together? And if your parents love him and don't have any problems with him then I dont see what they would have a problem with. But I don't have all the details. I can see how you could be scared of what they might say but might is the key word in there. Can you think of anything that they might point out that would be wrong if you 2 got married? If so think about what you could do or say to change there mind about it. Please let me know what you think and the answer to your questions. My email address is Taytayjomar@yahoo.com
Thanks and I hope I helped a lil bit.
TAY
be mature first to take a decision yourself and yes parents should know it of your decision as they always think of your best.
Well if you are still 15 you are too young to get married. HOWEVER Marriage is a big commitment that requires a lot of maturity to enter into. If you are old enough ( I would say at least 18) to get married and want to take on that commitment that requires such a huge amount of maturity then you should be mature enough to tell your parents. Just sit down and tell em. If they object firmly tell them that they have raised you this far and you are not their little girl anymore you are an adult and can make your own decisions. If they did their job right in raising you they should trust that they taught you right. If you are still acting immature though ( living for free in their home, not doing any small chores for them, not working, making them pay for all of your stuff, etc.) then they will be more likely to object.
Perhaps some counseling for you and your bf so you can make sure this isn't some puppy love and that you are both ready to step into this would help. Then you could tell mom and dad that you have completed that and that would show maturity. As well as making sure you are acting like the adult that you want them to see you as. Do this before you talk to them. Then you will have more valid points to argue back with instead of just BUT I LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES ME AND YOU CANT TELL US WHAT TO DO (which sounds childish no matter if its true or not)
Present them with a plan..... We went to counseling and have talked about all the responsibilities of marriage, we will live at such and such, I will continue my education, we will support ourselves by .... ETC. Just think of all their objections and make sure you have an adult answer ready with proof if need be
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