What should i do if my husband when angry ask for divorce and when in a good mood ask me to forgive him?
Question: Give me smn nice suggestion if one has otherwise please donn't ans this.Really in a need of good advice?
Answers: dont worry he loves you
mine did the same thing for a long time, I was in denial until he left me on Valentines day with a so called friend of mine, they're married now, yippee glad its not me!!!! take the hint he really means it until u take him serious, or the other chick he's interested in turns him down.....
If you want to be on an emotional roller coaster the rest of your life, living with a man who uses the threat of divorce to control you, then stay with him. If you value yourself then the next time he suggests a divorce, show him the door and call a locksmith to change the locks. Or go yourself, but end it.
He says it to get a reaction. He knows that hurts you, and it's a way to manipulate you. Tell him if he's going to do it, then do it and stop threatening you with it. Or tell him, you've heard that before, but he better always remember if YOU ever say it you will mean it, and right now you're thinking about it!
Do not bother. In a marriage It's natural. take it easy
I would talk it out with him. . try in work it out with him and tell him exactly how you feel of what he is saying to you.. honestly i think it is natural everyone gets angry and says things they dont mean..
my husband did this to me a few years ago. come to find out it was because he had met someone else and was trying to start a relationship with her and when she turned him down, he came back to me asking for forgiveness. i would look for something that would indicate cheating. if there isnt reason to suspect that, i would wait until he is in a good mood and ask him about it. ask why he hangs it over your head everytime he is in a bad mood. ask if he really wants a divorce or if he is just using that to make you do things for him to show your love to him so he wont leave. there are a few reasons men and women do this when they are married. just sit and talk. thats the only way you will know for sure.
What you forgiving him for?, did he hit you or cheat? Is it just words, hot air during a fight?, if so then dont be stupid... of course you forgive and forget... we all say things we dont mean during a fight.
He oscillates a lot, Probably when he is in good mood ask him what makes him to tell you so.If he accepts probably you both go to a family counsellor...
Do NOT give him this power over you. Don't be afraid of divorce from a guy who is willing to throw out such ugly BS at you. If he loses you, it will be his own damn fault. This actually sounds like standard spousal abuse.
The only person who can make you happy is the woman in the mirror. Next time he asks for divorce, go to the desk drawer and pull out the divorce complaint that your lawyer drafts for you next week. Believe me, it won't get better until he learns to respect you and to fear the BS that is coming out of his own immature, self-centered, life-destroying mouth.
Men are just dumb ignore him, and go get his credit card and shop until you drop every time he says it.That will teach him.
Your husband sounds just like mine does, when angry he even tells me he is moving out and I am talking about a man that is 66 yrs. old and we have been married for almost 48 yrs. this June. I know that his anger is the one that is talking, In your case you don't say how old you and your husband are, but I would assume that you two are young. When he is in a good mood tell him how you feel when he tells you negative things, and that above all you love him for who he is.
sit down and write down the pros and cons of divorce.. and write down what you would want out of a divorce(house,kids,child support)... give it to him when he is not angry and want`s forgiveness..talk about it don`t just give in.. In California the woman always get`s the kids(child support for two kids is 1/3 his wages after taxes) most of all get some prof.help... good luck
How long have you been together? If its not been too long, you have to tell him to stop saying to leave (unless he means it) and go to marriage counselling with him. That way you will both acknowledge this is a problem in the relationship and counselling will help him resolve his feelings for you. This is a real problem and if he does not agree to the counselling, i would say leave him.
If however this is going on for a while and you have told him to stop multiple times but he does not - then really dont waste your precious time with him.
Also, read his other actions towards you. If he really loves you, he would never say this to you coz it hurts the person on the receiving end. I have been through the same experience.
HE MUST SUFFER FROM SOMETHING. I DUNNO WHAT DO YOU FEEL.
He is simply venting. People will say lots of hurting words when angry. At least he isn't striking you. If that ever happens, you need to leave him immediately.
Get a lawyer, and file for divorce. This guy sounds like a spoiled kid. When he's miffed, he's trying to hurt and scare you by threatening divorce. That's NOT marriage. End the drama.
i do to my husband when i get angry, i mean it at that time but i ask him to forget about it. i think it is something when you get angry you just want to say something but in real it doesnt' mean at all.
forgive him girl, and if you all are still having problems go for counseling, good luck
I tell you what I do believe that people say hurtful things when they are mad but I also believe in biting your tongue. I know there for awhile me and my husband would say things that we didn't mean and it really did make things worse regardless if you meant it or not. I also believe if you don't mean it don't say it or matter how mad you are. It took me awhile to learn all of this. If I get that angry at my husband I will walk away from the situation until I calm down. Don't put up with that stuff. If he wants to act immature then let him but tell him when he decides to grow up and talk to you with some respect and not threathen things with you is when he can come and talk to you. The next time he threatens it ask him why are you still here you know where the door is see ya later.
Hope that helps a little
Good luck
I would call his bluff. Tell him not to let the door hit him in the ****. If he does leave he's not good for your anyway. This almost sounds like mental abuse too!
its called mind games and you have to decide wether you are going to carry on putting up with it. If yes then learn to expect it not a prob. If its too confusing- there are plenty more NICE people out there who you can meet
My husband does that when he is drunk. I think they really mean it. They wouldn't say it if they didn't. Good advice, go out on your own and get someone that treats you like you deserve to be treated. I'm working on it myself. Not the someone else bit though. If I leave, I'm done. I have sh** taste in men!!!!!
It sounds like when the other chick is not into him, he takes it out on you. I would go ahead and give him what he wants--out! Why waste your time on him, when you could be with someone who really loves you. Count your blessing and let him go.
This is what is known as emotional blackmail.A form of control.Your man suffers from a massive inferiority complex.If he needs reassurance all the time about how much you love him he should show you also by giving you the respect you deserve and stop putting you under this sort of pressure.
The idea behind all this is that he wants you to feel guilt.That you will do what he wants.You cannot live under this type of stress, because that is what it will cause for you.
He,will do whatever he wants, knowing that you will, he hopes, will always stay with him.
You will totally loose all of your self respect and will become a nervous wreck.
Most people that make these threats have no intention of going through with it. It is a call for attention.
Try to assist in him getting help. If that fails then get the hell out of there quick.You are living with a would be control freak.
How on earth can you be forced to love someone? How on earth can you be loved by this person who directly blackmails you?
Honey, get out NOW! Take good care. Real love will come to you without all this trauma. Take a look at http://thebaldchemist.blogspot.com... for some inspiration and guidance.
Even if it was stated in a fit of anger, divorce is a serious matter and not to be taken lightly. It appears to be a threat to back down from a matter. I would make it clear how this makes you feel. If a divorce is his answer for any spat then it appears he is lacking in self respect.
Answers: dont worry he loves you
mine did the same thing for a long time, I was in denial until he left me on Valentines day with a so called friend of mine, they're married now, yippee glad its not me!!!! take the hint he really means it until u take him serious, or the other chick he's interested in turns him down.....
If you want to be on an emotional roller coaster the rest of your life, living with a man who uses the threat of divorce to control you, then stay with him. If you value yourself then the next time he suggests a divorce, show him the door and call a locksmith to change the locks. Or go yourself, but end it.
He says it to get a reaction. He knows that hurts you, and it's a way to manipulate you. Tell him if he's going to do it, then do it and stop threatening you with it. Or tell him, you've heard that before, but he better always remember if YOU ever say it you will mean it, and right now you're thinking about it!
Do not bother. In a marriage It's natural. take it easy
I would talk it out with him. . try in work it out with him and tell him exactly how you feel of what he is saying to you.. honestly i think it is natural everyone gets angry and says things they dont mean..
my husband did this to me a few years ago. come to find out it was because he had met someone else and was trying to start a relationship with her and when she turned him down, he came back to me asking for forgiveness. i would look for something that would indicate cheating. if there isnt reason to suspect that, i would wait until he is in a good mood and ask him about it. ask why he hangs it over your head everytime he is in a bad mood. ask if he really wants a divorce or if he is just using that to make you do things for him to show your love to him so he wont leave. there are a few reasons men and women do this when they are married. just sit and talk. thats the only way you will know for sure.
What you forgiving him for?, did he hit you or cheat? Is it just words, hot air during a fight?, if so then dont be stupid... of course you forgive and forget... we all say things we dont mean during a fight.
He oscillates a lot, Probably when he is in good mood ask him what makes him to tell you so.If he accepts probably you both go to a family counsellor...
Do NOT give him this power over you. Don't be afraid of divorce from a guy who is willing to throw out such ugly BS at you. If he loses you, it will be his own damn fault. This actually sounds like standard spousal abuse.
The only person who can make you happy is the woman in the mirror. Next time he asks for divorce, go to the desk drawer and pull out the divorce complaint that your lawyer drafts for you next week. Believe me, it won't get better until he learns to respect you and to fear the BS that is coming out of his own immature, self-centered, life-destroying mouth.
Men are just dumb ignore him, and go get his credit card and shop until you drop every time he says it.That will teach him.
Your husband sounds just like mine does, when angry he even tells me he is moving out and I am talking about a man that is 66 yrs. old and we have been married for almost 48 yrs. this June. I know that his anger is the one that is talking, In your case you don't say how old you and your husband are, but I would assume that you two are young. When he is in a good mood tell him how you feel when he tells you negative things, and that above all you love him for who he is.
sit down and write down the pros and cons of divorce.. and write down what you would want out of a divorce(house,kids,child support)... give it to him when he is not angry and want`s forgiveness..talk about it don`t just give in.. In California the woman always get`s the kids(child support for two kids is 1/3 his wages after taxes) most of all get some prof.help... good luck
How long have you been together? If its not been too long, you have to tell him to stop saying to leave (unless he means it) and go to marriage counselling with him. That way you will both acknowledge this is a problem in the relationship and counselling will help him resolve his feelings for you. This is a real problem and if he does not agree to the counselling, i would say leave him.
If however this is going on for a while and you have told him to stop multiple times but he does not - then really dont waste your precious time with him.
Also, read his other actions towards you. If he really loves you, he would never say this to you coz it hurts the person on the receiving end. I have been through the same experience.
HE MUST SUFFER FROM SOMETHING. I DUNNO WHAT DO YOU FEEL.
He is simply venting. People will say lots of hurting words when angry. At least he isn't striking you. If that ever happens, you need to leave him immediately.
Get a lawyer, and file for divorce. This guy sounds like a spoiled kid. When he's miffed, he's trying to hurt and scare you by threatening divorce. That's NOT marriage. End the drama.
i do to my husband when i get angry, i mean it at that time but i ask him to forget about it. i think it is something when you get angry you just want to say something but in real it doesnt' mean at all.
forgive him girl, and if you all are still having problems go for counseling, good luck
I tell you what I do believe that people say hurtful things when they are mad but I also believe in biting your tongue. I know there for awhile me and my husband would say things that we didn't mean and it really did make things worse regardless if you meant it or not. I also believe if you don't mean it don't say it or matter how mad you are. It took me awhile to learn all of this. If I get that angry at my husband I will walk away from the situation until I calm down. Don't put up with that stuff. If he wants to act immature then let him but tell him when he decides to grow up and talk to you with some respect and not threathen things with you is when he can come and talk to you. The next time he threatens it ask him why are you still here you know where the door is see ya later.
Hope that helps a little
Good luck
I would call his bluff. Tell him not to let the door hit him in the ****. If he does leave he's not good for your anyway. This almost sounds like mental abuse too!
its called mind games and you have to decide wether you are going to carry on putting up with it. If yes then learn to expect it not a prob. If its too confusing- there are plenty more NICE people out there who you can meet
My husband does that when he is drunk. I think they really mean it. They wouldn't say it if they didn't. Good advice, go out on your own and get someone that treats you like you deserve to be treated. I'm working on it myself. Not the someone else bit though. If I leave, I'm done. I have sh** taste in men!!!!!
It sounds like when the other chick is not into him, he takes it out on you. I would go ahead and give him what he wants--out! Why waste your time on him, when you could be with someone who really loves you. Count your blessing and let him go.
This is what is known as emotional blackmail.A form of control.Your man suffers from a massive inferiority complex.If he needs reassurance all the time about how much you love him he should show you also by giving you the respect you deserve and stop putting you under this sort of pressure.
The idea behind all this is that he wants you to feel guilt.That you will do what he wants.You cannot live under this type of stress, because that is what it will cause for you.
He,will do whatever he wants, knowing that you will, he hopes, will always stay with him.
You will totally loose all of your self respect and will become a nervous wreck.
Most people that make these threats have no intention of going through with it. It is a call for attention.
Try to assist in him getting help. If that fails then get the hell out of there quick.You are living with a would be control freak.
How on earth can you be forced to love someone? How on earth can you be loved by this person who directly blackmails you?
Honey, get out NOW! Take good care. Real love will come to you without all this trauma. Take a look at http://thebaldchemist.blogspot.com... for some inspiration and guidance.
Even if it was stated in a fit of anger, divorce is a serious matter and not to be taken lightly. It appears to be a threat to back down from a matter. I would make it clear how this makes you feel. If a divorce is his answer for any spat then it appears he is lacking in self respect.
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