I am crazy about my best friend but she isn't crazy about me. What do I do?
Question: I just realized that I am crazy in love with my bestfriend (a girl ofcourse!). She is all I can think of every minute of everyday. It just sucks that she is dating a guy she is really interested in. We are so close that she tells me everything. She used to have a crush on me but we just became bestfriends because I didn't like her that much before. But now I am really crazy about her. I even fantasize about her. I'm so stupid I didn't realize it earlier. So, should I tell her how I feel or should I just wait for her to be single again and continue on being bestfriends with her? But I get so jealous when she tells me stories about her new guy. She is being sweeped off her feet right now by that focker. Darn it. Compared to him, I am nothing now since I am considered as a close friend and not a romantic interest. They even have the same taste in music and other stuff. She always invites him whenever we go out. I wanna beat him up so bad but can't because he has a lot of friends. Help...
Answers: You didn't mention your age but I am guessing high school or jr high possibly. Your situation sounds alot like the relationship I had with a girl that to this day I am convinced is my soulmate. By the way I am 32yr old man now and no we are not together now.
The best thing you can do and the way to give yourself the best chance at ever having anything further then a platonic friendship is to bite the bullet man. You need to still be the same ole friend that she adores and confides in. I know that is a very hard thing to do and sometimes you want to just curl up like a lil puppy dog in front of her and say Take Me Take Me . I do not suggest doing that however no matter how much you feel like you want to.
When you feel appropriate however, I would still make her fully aware of your feelings towards her but you need to give her all the space she needs just the way you would want it if tables were turned. The last thing you want to do is become a nuisance and a nag. She will distance herself. She may anyways whether you let her or not.
All I am saying is the woman I was like that with was my best friend through high school. We began by dating and stuff in school. Then broke up and I was devastated. But I always remained that one person she could confide in and trust no matter if things were going good or bad with new guy. Mind you...we have never screwed to this day. We came very close many times though. Our friendship lasted well past high school and even into our seperate marriages which at times we were still kissing and hugging and all over each other.
Some time has passed now and now we never even talk anymore. She has moved about 150 miles away and has her family and I have mine. But I think of her often and when I do I smile because we shared a unique friendship and love and it was beautiful.
Matter of fact I do see her mother from time to time and she always comes and gives me a big hug and loves to see me.
So,bro, even though you want this chick and you fantasize about her...keep your head. There are more important things and more rewarding things in life then just sex. Don't let that ambition of yours ruin all the good times and all the close confidential trusting moments you could share with her. For real bro!!
You have to make this decision, but if I were you (and if I were her I would want you) I would tell her. It's torture for you to keep this facade up. Just be honest. If she has no feelings, she will say so, but at least you won't kick yourself forever for not giving yourself the chance, or giving her the chance to have you.
Tell her how you feel. Even though she is dating somebody all is fair in love and war. She is not married.
You can tell her how you feel (which may end the friendshiop) or you can wait it out. But it may be hopeless. And being her friend isn't being nothing. Good guy friends are priceless to women.
tell her how you feel, but first warn her that you're going to tell her something personal and that you don't want it to ruin your friendship.
At some fine moment tell her your state(she will understand) and then let her decide. If there isn't more, see to it that you don't loose what you have - 'the good friendship'.
its a huge difficulty to make a girl who classified you as a friend to fall in love with you. and its a fatal mistake in dating. and when trying you should be subtle and never try to push to hard because she might be scared of the strange idea of being your girlfriend in the beginning.
may be some Kino and body language will help you to start. but always be aware to her reactions and never push to hard.
good luck, and wish to hear good news from you
Hey wait a sec before you do anything.You are her best friend and friends last longer than boy friends.Wait till she is over with this new guy and then move forward at the right time.BEST OF LUCK.
Answers: You didn't mention your age but I am guessing high school or jr high possibly. Your situation sounds alot like the relationship I had with a girl that to this day I am convinced is my soulmate. By the way I am 32yr old man now and no we are not together now.
The best thing you can do and the way to give yourself the best chance at ever having anything further then a platonic friendship is to bite the bullet man. You need to still be the same ole friend that she adores and confides in. I know that is a very hard thing to do and sometimes you want to just curl up like a lil puppy dog in front of her and say Take Me Take Me . I do not suggest doing that however no matter how much you feel like you want to.
When you feel appropriate however, I would still make her fully aware of your feelings towards her but you need to give her all the space she needs just the way you would want it if tables were turned. The last thing you want to do is become a nuisance and a nag. She will distance herself. She may anyways whether you let her or not.
All I am saying is the woman I was like that with was my best friend through high school. We began by dating and stuff in school. Then broke up and I was devastated. But I always remained that one person she could confide in and trust no matter if things were going good or bad with new guy. Mind you...we have never screwed to this day. We came very close many times though. Our friendship lasted well past high school and even into our seperate marriages which at times we were still kissing and hugging and all over each other.
Some time has passed now and now we never even talk anymore. She has moved about 150 miles away and has her family and I have mine. But I think of her often and when I do I smile because we shared a unique friendship and love and it was beautiful.
Matter of fact I do see her mother from time to time and she always comes and gives me a big hug and loves to see me.
So,bro, even though you want this chick and you fantasize about her...keep your head. There are more important things and more rewarding things in life then just sex. Don't let that ambition of yours ruin all the good times and all the close confidential trusting moments you could share with her. For real bro!!
You have to make this decision, but if I were you (and if I were her I would want you) I would tell her. It's torture for you to keep this facade up. Just be honest. If she has no feelings, she will say so, but at least you won't kick yourself forever for not giving yourself the chance, or giving her the chance to have you.
Tell her how you feel. Even though she is dating somebody all is fair in love and war. She is not married.
You can tell her how you feel (which may end the friendshiop) or you can wait it out. But it may be hopeless. And being her friend isn't being nothing. Good guy friends are priceless to women.
tell her how you feel, but first warn her that you're going to tell her something personal and that you don't want it to ruin your friendship.
At some fine moment tell her your state(she will understand) and then let her decide. If there isn't more, see to it that you don't loose what you have - 'the good friendship'.
its a huge difficulty to make a girl who classified you as a friend to fall in love with you. and its a fatal mistake in dating. and when trying you should be subtle and never try to push to hard because she might be scared of the strange idea of being your girlfriend in the beginning.
may be some Kino and body language will help you to start. but always be aware to her reactions and never push to hard.
good luck, and wish to hear good news from you
Hey wait a sec before you do anything.You are her best friend and friends last longer than boy friends.Wait till she is over with this new guy and then move forward at the right time.BEST OF LUCK.
More questions & answers:
- Is it cheating?
- Theres a boy that I know and he be mean to me and then the naxt day hes nice.Do he like me or not?
- If someone asks you to dance, but you don't like them, how do you say no without hurting them?
- What is the moste romantic thing you can think of ?
- I'm being stalked by a Psychotic Lover!?
- Why do men hate arguments?
- What do u think about indipendant women?
- How do I let a good friend know that I am not attracted to him?
- So I really like this guy that lives in my hometown......?
- What is the difference between sex and romance?
- I am 22 i just moved to Greeley, Colorado i don't really now any one here, but I'm looking for a nice girl
- Why do guys always say they want me when I asked "where could I find a man now"???
The Family Relationships informations are posted by the website users and for your use only, and without responsibility on oryxquest.com.