Falling For A Girl Who Happens To Be My Neighbor In My Apartments PLZ HELP?
Question: so ive been single for awhile ... there has been a girl who lives nextdoor to me in my apartments for the past year , finally we hooked up like a week ago( ive had a thing for her for EVER) ... farthest we have gone is making out and some body rubbing. Anyways she says theres something in her life that is perventing her from going into a relationship ... she says she likes me ... I belive her but I want more ... I am so confused, I dont know what to do i am almost 23 and she is 19 ... I have allready told her lets just be friends twice but then she re=assures me that you gotta put yourself out there if you want things to happen , im so scared im gonna get hurt , I dont know what to do .. im lost.
Answers: first of all, you can't avoid being hurt.
that's impossible.
second. she sounds confusing. if you continue to be there for her without constantly pushing the issue of a relationship then hopefully she can realize on her own the potential a relationship between the two of you could have to offer. if there really is something preventing her, she needs time and being pushy or impatient will only make her need more time. the fact that she tells you she doesn't want a relationship, but also to put yourself out there, is really confusing. this girl might just be confused herself. i would say just continue to be there for her in every way possible. and keep your feelings to yourself. if it becomes to unbearable, then sit her down and tell her EVERYTHING. don't leave out anything. tell her you love her and what you want and that you understand what she has said. tell her everything and then let her decide. that's a lot of pressure to put on someone. but tell her you're ok with whatever happens. you can always be friends. but until that time comes (if it comes) then i would continue to be there for her constantly and consistently. she can never deny that you were a good friend, even if it doesn't go any further like you hope it will. jsut make your decisions and stick with them. DONT REGRET. that gets you nowhere.
Answers: first of all, you can't avoid being hurt.
that's impossible.
second. she sounds confusing. if you continue to be there for her without constantly pushing the issue of a relationship then hopefully she can realize on her own the potential a relationship between the two of you could have to offer. if there really is something preventing her, she needs time and being pushy or impatient will only make her need more time. the fact that she tells you she doesn't want a relationship, but also to put yourself out there, is really confusing. this girl might just be confused herself. i would say just continue to be there for her in every way possible. and keep your feelings to yourself. if it becomes to unbearable, then sit her down and tell her EVERYTHING. don't leave out anything. tell her you love her and what you want and that you understand what she has said. tell her everything and then let her decide. that's a lot of pressure to put on someone. but tell her you're ok with whatever happens. you can always be friends. but until that time comes (if it comes) then i would continue to be there for her constantly and consistently. she can never deny that you were a good friend, even if it doesn't go any further like you hope it will. jsut make your decisions and stick with them. DONT REGRET. that gets you nowhere.
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