My 40ish younger brother is getting married. Rehearsal dinner etiquette?
Question: This his second marriage, her first. My only brother. They have lived together for the past two-three years. Because of family dynamics, it is assumed that I will pay for the dinner. I was told yesterday that we will meet at the restaurant with the Chef, my brother and his fiance to plan the meal. My brother said they are talking about having 35-40 people at this dinner. The bride's parents are planning everything else and we will only have about 6 family members (including brother) at the wedding & reception. I would like to hear your thoughts on what would be reasonable for the dinner and what would be unreasonable? For example: menu, open bar, number of people, etc. I had a similar situation before with a funeral lunch after a parent's death and once my older Irish relatives heard the words open bar they ordered like prohibition had ended and were going crazy. I had to close it down after an hour because they would have emptied the bar. What is correct in this situation?
Answers: Open bar, limited. Do it for an hour. Like you I have an Irish family that loves to drink. We are having our rehearsal dinner at a brewery of all places. The only people that are invited though are the wedding party, which totals about 30 people. Cost per plate will probably be anywhere from $20 a plate to $40 a plate, depending on the class of the event. Since you mention meeting with the chef, I am guessing on the pricier side.
No one will kill you if you close down the bar. It is your money, and overdrinking is not always good. Drinking is a privlidge not a right. It's like any bartender 86ing someone at a regular bar, you don't want to be responsible for a possible DUI or Alcohol Poisoning.
The number of people for the rehearsal sounds reasonable, limited open bar, and no more than $50 a plate should keep you cool.
You could also limit the open bar to beer and wine only, everyone else pays for hard alcohol/mixed drinks. That is what my sister did.
Whatever happens, good luck!
Just hand out tickets at the door, or with the invitations for drinks limiting each guest to 2 drinks.
I personally like smoked and then bar-B-Qed meats for dinner.
But if it was me, I would ask these questions of the caterer, or the restaurant, if they give you good answers, then they can do the job !!!
Second marriage, sounds like your brother's problem.
You are probably looking at a couple thousand just for dinner. That is just wrong.
You must give off the impression that you have alot of money.
No open bar for starters. Everyone can buy their own. Maybe just wine with dinner if that.
I still think it is your brother's problem, and he should be payin for the dinner.
I don't think you should be responsible to the rehearsal dinner. If you didn't volunteer to host it, then it's really your brother and his fiance's responsibility. If you volunteered to host it, then you get to choose the venue and the menu. I think the number of people at the dinner is outrageously large, too. It's a ridiculous imposition on you to ask you to host any more than the wedding party. If the happy couple want to have that many people, then I think they should host it, make the decisions about the meal and drinks, and pay for it.
But if you have no choice about hosting it, then do not offer hard liquor -- just beer and wine or punch and soft drinks. We hosted a rehearsal dinner for my daughter and that's what we offered and everyone was happy with it except one individual. (He chose to go to the bar in the restaurant and order is own cocktails there.)
Answers: Open bar, limited. Do it for an hour. Like you I have an Irish family that loves to drink. We are having our rehearsal dinner at a brewery of all places. The only people that are invited though are the wedding party, which totals about 30 people. Cost per plate will probably be anywhere from $20 a plate to $40 a plate, depending on the class of the event. Since you mention meeting with the chef, I am guessing on the pricier side.
No one will kill you if you close down the bar. It is your money, and overdrinking is not always good. Drinking is a privlidge not a right. It's like any bartender 86ing someone at a regular bar, you don't want to be responsible for a possible DUI or Alcohol Poisoning.
The number of people for the rehearsal sounds reasonable, limited open bar, and no more than $50 a plate should keep you cool.
You could also limit the open bar to beer and wine only, everyone else pays for hard alcohol/mixed drinks. That is what my sister did.
Whatever happens, good luck!
Just hand out tickets at the door, or with the invitations for drinks limiting each guest to 2 drinks.
I personally like smoked and then bar-B-Qed meats for dinner.
But if it was me, I would ask these questions of the caterer, or the restaurant, if they give you good answers, then they can do the job !!!
Second marriage, sounds like your brother's problem.
You are probably looking at a couple thousand just for dinner. That is just wrong.
You must give off the impression that you have alot of money.
No open bar for starters. Everyone can buy their own. Maybe just wine with dinner if that.
I still think it is your brother's problem, and he should be payin for the dinner.
I don't think you should be responsible to the rehearsal dinner. If you didn't volunteer to host it, then it's really your brother and his fiance's responsibility. If you volunteered to host it, then you get to choose the venue and the menu. I think the number of people at the dinner is outrageously large, too. It's a ridiculous imposition on you to ask you to host any more than the wedding party. If the happy couple want to have that many people, then I think they should host it, make the decisions about the meal and drinks, and pay for it.
But if you have no choice about hosting it, then do not offer hard liquor -- just beer and wine or punch and soft drinks. We hosted a rehearsal dinner for my daughter and that's what we offered and everyone was happy with it except one individual. (He chose to go to the bar in the restaurant and order is own cocktails there.)
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