Is it wrong to walk down the aisle to the tradtional wedding march if I'm Jewish?
Question: I'm Jewish and my fiance is not. We have hired a harpist to play at our wedding ceremony. She said because of who wrote the wedding march it is inappropriate to play it for a wedding ceremony if the person is Jewish - wasn't it Wagner??? We're getting married in a Unitarian church, who believe that people of different faiths should be able to be married, so the minister said it's fine with her. What is the protocol for this?
Answers: That's a very interesting question. My sister (Jewish) married a catholic...and they elected to have a civil service to avoid the issue altogether. I am not religious at all (I do consider myself culturally jewish)...but I think religious weddings are a lot more dignified and aesthetically pleasing. I think the issue you are talking about is Wagner.....Wagner was an untra-german nationalist...as are many of his operas in character...and are seen as contributing to the rise of the Nazi power. Hitler certainly loved Wagner. My guess is that is why you heard not to march to Wagner. Personally I wouldn;t care....weddings are really for the woman and your families.....I'd just keep my mouth shut and try to make them happy. Then enjoy the honey moon as your reward. Besides...ultra-nationalist or not....Wagner's music is beautiful.
I don't know if Wagner wrote the wedding march, but it's up to you if you want to walk down the aisle to that song- even if he was an anti-semite. It's not like he's earning money off that song anymore! It's your day, do what you want! (My mom is Baptist and my dad is Jewish. They had two ceremonies- one for each faith.)
Why worry about protocol. Do what make the both of you happy. If you both would like to have a traditional Western marriage with wedding march and all, then go for it. :)
It's your wedding! If the miniser and family are okay, Who CARES about the musician!
Its your wedding, you can walk down to anything you want!!
I'm not jewish...But I think you should rely on your instint
or your conscious... if your instinct says no than no..if it says yes than yes...The wedding march is written by Wagner...it's called Lohengrin (i think its spelled correctly) ....And you and your soon to be hubby are
getting married in a Christian Unitarian church....Go by your....gut instinct...if getting married in a church
doesnt' bug you then I gueass Lohengrin...shouldn't bug you either.....Good luck!!! and Have a happy honeymoon!!!
It's whatever you want to do. If you want to follow tradition, then follow it. However, it seems like it's causing you stress-- so, don't follow it if you choose not too.Just go with what you feel is right. I'm sure you and your fiancee will both agree on something.
And congratulations!
There is so much of political correctness and acceptability nowadays, that it seems like individuality is a lost art. Go for what you both want..do what is necessary to make this a joyous and happy occassion and memory for both of you. There will never be an event at which everyone is happy with the decisions made. This is your day..
It is your wedding. I am seeing a Jewish man and we are working on mixing traditions as well. Since a wedding march isn't played with words in our family, we are going to have it played. There are so many other things to worry about in these weddings that we are saving music for last. And if you hired the harpist than she should do what you request! It is your wedding after all, not hers.
Of course, you can walk down the aisle to the traditional wedding march. It is included in nearly all Jewish weddings. Ask a rabbi, if you want clarification.
It was written as part of an opera, for crying out loud, and not as part of any kind of religious service. The harpist is mistaken, and maybe a bit insane.
Felix Mendelssohn wrote it. Actually he was Jewish. 1809-1847
do what makes u feel good, this is ur wedding and I think if u have always wanted to walk down the aisle then that is what u should do. u might regret this all ur life if u don't do it. and since the minister has no problem with it then i say go for it.
Mendelssohn wrote the Wedding March, Wagner wrote the Bridal Chorus. Both are from operas (the Wedding March from A Midsummer Night's Dream and the Bridal Chorus from Lohengrin). They are secular pieces, not religious hymns. There's nothing wrong with using either piece.
Don't worry about protocol. If that's what you want, go for it. It's not a traditional Jewish wedding.
The bottom line is your wedding can never be a traditional Jewish wedding once you are marrying a non-Jew. By Orthodox law there cannot even be such an union to call it a wedding, Conservative require at least a token conversion (not sure about Reform and reconstructionist though).
So do whatever you like, you are way out of traditional territory and there no need to worry about what other peoples expectations are!
Answers: That's a very interesting question. My sister (Jewish) married a catholic...and they elected to have a civil service to avoid the issue altogether. I am not religious at all (I do consider myself culturally jewish)...but I think religious weddings are a lot more dignified and aesthetically pleasing. I think the issue you are talking about is Wagner.....Wagner was an untra-german nationalist...as are many of his operas in character...and are seen as contributing to the rise of the Nazi power. Hitler certainly loved Wagner. My guess is that is why you heard not to march to Wagner. Personally I wouldn;t care....weddings are really for the woman and your families.....I'd just keep my mouth shut and try to make them happy. Then enjoy the honey moon as your reward. Besides...ultra-nationalist or not....Wagner's music is beautiful.
I don't know if Wagner wrote the wedding march, but it's up to you if you want to walk down the aisle to that song- even if he was an anti-semite. It's not like he's earning money off that song anymore! It's your day, do what you want! (My mom is Baptist and my dad is Jewish. They had two ceremonies- one for each faith.)
Why worry about protocol. Do what make the both of you happy. If you both would like to have a traditional Western marriage with wedding march and all, then go for it. :)
It's your wedding! If the miniser and family are okay, Who CARES about the musician!
Its your wedding, you can walk down to anything you want!!
I'm not jewish...But I think you should rely on your instint
or your conscious... if your instinct says no than no..if it says yes than yes...The wedding march is written by Wagner...it's called Lohengrin (i think its spelled correctly) ....And you and your soon to be hubby are
getting married in a Christian Unitarian church....Go by your....gut instinct...if getting married in a church
doesnt' bug you then I gueass Lohengrin...shouldn't bug you either.....Good luck!!! and Have a happy honeymoon!!!
It's whatever you want to do. If you want to follow tradition, then follow it. However, it seems like it's causing you stress-- so, don't follow it if you choose not too.Just go with what you feel is right. I'm sure you and your fiancee will both agree on something.
And congratulations!
There is so much of political correctness and acceptability nowadays, that it seems like individuality is a lost art. Go for what you both want..do what is necessary to make this a joyous and happy occassion and memory for both of you. There will never be an event at which everyone is happy with the decisions made. This is your day..
It is your wedding. I am seeing a Jewish man and we are working on mixing traditions as well. Since a wedding march isn't played with words in our family, we are going to have it played. There are so many other things to worry about in these weddings that we are saving music for last. And if you hired the harpist than she should do what you request! It is your wedding after all, not hers.
Of course, you can walk down the aisle to the traditional wedding march. It is included in nearly all Jewish weddings. Ask a rabbi, if you want clarification.
It was written as part of an opera, for crying out loud, and not as part of any kind of religious service. The harpist is mistaken, and maybe a bit insane.
Felix Mendelssohn wrote it. Actually he was Jewish. 1809-1847
do what makes u feel good, this is ur wedding and I think if u have always wanted to walk down the aisle then that is what u should do. u might regret this all ur life if u don't do it. and since the minister has no problem with it then i say go for it.
Mendelssohn wrote the Wedding March, Wagner wrote the Bridal Chorus. Both are from operas (the Wedding March from A Midsummer Night's Dream and the Bridal Chorus from Lohengrin). They are secular pieces, not religious hymns. There's nothing wrong with using either piece.
Don't worry about protocol. If that's what you want, go for it. It's not a traditional Jewish wedding.
The bottom line is your wedding can never be a traditional Jewish wedding once you are marrying a non-Jew. By Orthodox law there cannot even be such an union to call it a wedding, Conservative require at least a token conversion (not sure about Reform and reconstructionist though).
So do whatever you like, you are way out of traditional territory and there no need to worry about what other peoples expectations are!
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